End of The Element of Fear! Reply

With some time on my hands I was browsing the Internet and went to this site


It really provides interesting readings.

The Tunisian Hero To The Arab Uprisings and Revolutions.

Mohamed Bouaziz (aka Basboosa) set himself on fire (self-immolation) on 17th December 2010

According to Bouazizi’s mother – Rania Abouzeid – Mohamed Bouazizi undertook his desperate drastic action because he had been humiliated, not because of the family’s poverty. “It got to him deep inside, it hurt his pride,” she said, referring to the police harassment. – and being slapped by a woman Police Officer Fadia Hamdi!

Portrait of Mohamed Bouaziz

Tunisian Protestors – Below in France Supporters


The Slapping Woman Police Officer Fadia Hamdi!

I think we in the Arab World especially have short memories of The End of The Element of Fear and Harrassments – and need to be reminded now and again – and especially just few days ago of The Richest Arab Ruler of The World Ghaddaffi kept for sale like a frozen fish in the fish market!

But will we learn? No – that is the Arab Tragedy for you! People will never learn until they suffer personally for what they have done – or allowed to run and in inaction.

Simply put – People are no longer afraid anymore! The Losers will be EVERYBODY!

Allah (God) Protect and Preserve us all – Amin.


Majid Al Suleimany

Let The Strong Man Win Always! Reply

 Let The Strong Man Win Always! 

Or difference between rhetoric and reality! Practising what you preach!

Difference of preaching and practice – rhetoric and reality – and hypocrisy and being sincere and genuine! Islam is not just talking – but doing it!

Drawing blood from a stone!

The other day I met this friend of mine who was in The Zanzibar boat disaster case a few months back. I would not put him as a ‘strong fan’ because he would normally go by the discussions around him on his stand and point of view. Our late Father had always cautioned us on those people who seem to get along with almost everybody – but that is another story for now!

So the good friend says to me – I have been reading your articles for a long time now – but the messages and themes just come in one ear and goes out from the other! But you will find this strange and morbid now – I should have remembered God but not you! This as everyone was panicking around as the boat was sinking – I remembered one of your articles being stuck in a rock without a paddle as the saying goes – and you just watch everything around you as you wait for the final end result and outcome – which is coming soon and there is simply nothing you can do about it! He says to me he remembers the metaphor I had quoted several times of this fast moving train as it starts to derail. Or the one more about the Titanic with the young captains on board – as they watch it in horror as it was moving towards the iceberg to its utter and final destruction!

A few years back I never knew I was a diabetic case until one day I found my head so heavy and that it looked like falling off my body! My family had to persuade me to go to hospital – a private one – but when they saw my case they had to send me to The Emergency Ward of Royal Hospital in Bowsher! When I reached there I found so many people fussing around me – because my glucose levels were so high imaginable. Even one of the doctors insisted to the nurse to bring a new machine – because they could not believe the readings!

The Doctor said to me – This is a first time case for me at least – because with these temperatures you must either be dead, paralysed or in a coma. Do you have steel in your veins?The joke was continuously repeated by other doctors – and frankly I was so frightened and scared stiff to see so many doctors paying me such attention – like I was guinea-pig case for them to study! Frankly too, I think money and other worries had contributed significantly to my sad state of affairs – if you will excuse me playing my fiddle here! It was not only discovering to be a diabetic case!

This nice caring lady doctor had seen me so emotional and distressed one night and she asked me what gives? Then we started talking. The shock was hers to hear my tales and that these things can happen to one when you have tried to be self-employed after opting for voluntary retirement – and the worst part of what can befall you if you try to challenge the system by going to business as an underdog – and then having the audacity and impudence of failing too! I do not want to repeat my story – I have said it so many times before – even trying again to be an Author, Writer and Columnist – and the story repeating itself all over again!

No one can give you money for free – even in your family too! But there is compassion, care and feelings too! In addition to being considerate and kind – being also ethical, professional and principled. If you are down there in the hole – do not expect kindness or mercy – or a helping hand out – but people will throw in more stones to hit you – and there is nothing you can do about it.

People are selfish, self-centered and cruel – no mercies extended – and a short memory too. There is need to be considerate and kind – being also ethical, professional and principled. And remembering the profits you have made – and to remember your old customers too in social responsibilities

I am watching the many cases now of Buddhist monks self-immolation cases – because they find it too much and have given up – as the situation only gets worst day by day – and there is simply nothing you can do about it if you are a weakling and an underdog! We have all conveniently forgotten the Tunisian Fruit Seller whose self-immolation started the Arab uprising! How a great Arab Leader otherwise before all these was left in a fish market being viewed and being mockingly photographed by not interested buyers too – and just like Alexander The Great had said – I came in this world with empty hands – and I leave with empty hands to my grave. But will we learn? No – we will not – all the wealth and power has been left behind!

Three days back I find my glucose levels rising again – and all because as a Pensioner with over 35 years solid, dedicated, committed, loyal and faithful service to the Nation – I cannot now touch my Pension (my only earnings left in my life now!) – and as it is all taken. And even those supposed to pay you have not done so for the last 7 months – or find an excuse not to pay you even though you did the works successfully for them. Yet they have the courage and bravado to smile at you as if nothing has happened – and have forgotten conveniently all the good things and sacrifices that you have done for them.

I am going on a fast diet to bring my glucose levels down. I say – as the East African say in Swahili – Mwenye Nguvu Mpishe – literally Let The Strong Man Pass (Win)! And there is simply nothing that you can do about it – as your fate is doomed and sealed – yet we pride ourselves to be in a Islamic and Arab country too!

What is the point? There is simply no point! Either you lose your money – and your health and sanity too! I have tried hard to go by the system and contacts – but it is simply not working! I wish I was Buddhist – then I could come back! But as a Believer it is Eternal Hell only! They do not even read my letters anymore – but delete as it comes in!

As my friend said to me – I tried to recollect myself fast and do something quick to abandon the sinking ship! The only way I can – is to leave things to Allah SWT God – because only He can save me now. I have tried with all peoples I could – even sending them free copies of my books – only to find the results more unexpected – because I had the audacity and impudence to raise my voice – and complain. Allah Is Great – In the name of God; The Most Gracious and The Merciful – Amin.

Take Care!


Majid Al Suleimany

Respect Our Arab Leaders! Reply

Respect The Arab Leaders!

A deep soul search analysis of what we have become now!

You will excuse me for this – but in writing I will not talk about things on what is going on and construed as the norm. Like bombing children queuing for sweets; for jobs or in the market places buying food for the family – or praying alongside you in the mosques (Masjids)! And so many other sagas and things of the same sort. If I start doing that it will take pages and pages to complete! The Key word here is The Leadership! And how we interact and interface with them!

A long time ago I watched this war epic film of The Second World War where this British Captain is seen saluting the graves of the just buried by them German soldiers! A disgruntled voice is heard to say – They are Germans – and they would not even bury us if the tables were turned! To which he receives a retort from his Commander – They are just the same like us – just carrying out orders given to them by their commanders (and country) – so let it rest! I forgot the name of the film – but it made me shed a tear or two at ‘humanity at its best’!

In my first articles in my column Between Us Only! In The Oman Daily Observer (April 30 2003 – after the Iraqi invasion) I wrote – Quote – The Other Face (Humane) of   War! Or – The Milk of Human Kindness Amidst War – There is this picture of a Corporal Claire O’Connor (26) of Fulham, South West London, of the British Forces in Iraq as she is holding an Iraqi baby boy (about 3 years).  The Corporal is seen smiling, and like all held babies seeing smiling faces, he smiles back.  The mother (Iraqi) is entwined and watching in ‘awe’ is smiling also. A photograph of ‘two mums’ looking up and holding a baby – A picture of milk of human kindness, feelings and touch.  There is no war going on-as far as the picture goes. They are both mums to a baby – no invader or being invaded! – Unquote. 

It is said that during The Black September episodes, rebelling Palestinian soldiers preferred to surrender to The Israelis than fellow Arabs – because they would receive ‘better and fairer treatment’ than their fellow Arabs (Muslims)! And also the notion that more Palestinians (Arabs) have died from Arab bullets rather than from the Israelis! 

If you go by our Religious Hadith (history) our Great Prophet Muhammad PBUH forbade any reprisals of any sort to the people of Mecca after defeating them in the wars – despite the very bad records of they did to the converting Muslims – to the extent that they had to leave for Medina and even to Ethiopia – a Christian land with a Christian King! So many other stories depicting humanity and kindness to the same people – like those who threw stones at him and causing him to bleed! When asked if he wanted the villages destroyed he instead went as far as to ask them to be forgiven. The same villages later on became Muslims! And they even went to the Far East to spread Islam! 

Why do we not follow the best and the greatest example shown to us by this Great Prophet (PBUH)? What other example do we want?

You can follow here my other articles that I have written about Muammar Ghaddafi. The point I want to make are these:- 

A – Saddam Hussein of Iraq.

  • I have never been a Saddam Hussein supporter – but I acknowledge that still he was an Arab Leader!
  • We have seen how young Iraqis taunted Saddam Hussein as he was saying to even receive a taunt from the man as he was being hanged. They did not even allow him to finish to say The Shahada – the last words but pulled the rope to hang him as he was saying the ‘last words!
  • The man was visibly more terrified as he was being handed to ‘fellow Iraqis’ than when he was with the Americans!
  • These things should really shame and disgrace us of what we have now become!

B – Hosni Mubarak of Egypt.

  • Why bring such a sick old man sick and in bed to court – whatever he has done? Have we seen any other example of any other case in the world?
  • And then all the poking fun and insulting videos, cartoons and caricatures of him, Ben Ali and others!
  • Following things just blindly without thinking and reasoning – against the very ethics, principles and teachings of our own religion – despite whatever they have done (and that is another angle also to look into – as required by A Leader in Islam!)

C –Muammar Ghaddafi – The Latest Live Example!


  •  I was shocked to the core – I actually cried! – To see how such young Libyans have treated him – despite everything that he has done! Whatever tyranny and brutality!
  • Today we hear from ‘Christian Quarters’ (not even from our own voices) for a full investigation of the circumstances and how he was killed (in cold blood)!
  • Either because people were scared stiff of what he might say in revealing secrets – or and just bad unalike our Religious Teachings on how to behave and act in such circumstances!
  • There is also this general expression in Arabic – Those who come up by the sword – will also go by the sword!

D – George Bernard Shaw!

It is purported to have been said by this great writer and poet that – Islam was the best religion in the world – but its worst peoples! 

So sorry to say it – but I have sympathy with his views!

 Then there is this expression – we shall want to copy and emulate to such an extent that when we see them crawling into a crevice – we would want to do the same!

Yet we have so many so-called Leaders there Non-Arabs and Non-Muslims who too should be in jail – or even hang! Why is nothing happening to them???


Stay with your own peoples only! Outside friends are only temporary, artificial and for their own self interests as it suits them!

May Allah SWT (God) Forgive us our sins and Protect and Preserve from His anger and fury – Amin (Amen)!

Take Care!


Majid Al Suleimany

Muammar Ghaddafi Is Dead (Killed)! Reply


Dead Ghaddafi Video Image


Watch the videos also






While reports surrounding the circumstances ofMuammar Gaddafi;s death remain murky, amateur footage combined with eyewitness accounts tell a dramatic story of the toppled leader’s last stand.

Shortly before dawn prayers on Thursday, Gaddafi surrounded by a few dozen loyal bodyguards and accompanied by Abu Bakr Younis Jabr, the head of his now defeated army, broke out of Sirte where his loyalists had been embroiled in fierce gun battles with NTC fighters for two months.


Gaddafi headed west in an armed convoy of 15 trucks, but did not get far. NATO said that one of its aircraft struck the convoy near Sirte at about 8:30 am on Thursday.

Gerard Longuet, French defence minister, later confirmed that the attack – which destroyed all 15 trucks and killed 50 of Gaddafi’s men – was executed by the French air force.

However, Gaddafi himself and a handful of his men escaped death and appear to have run through a strand of trees towards the main road and hid in two drainage pipes.

Gaddafi’s capture

Gaddafi and his men attempted to hide from a unit of NTC fighters who had pursued the convoy, but were quickly located.

“At first we fired at them with anti-aircraft guns, but it was no use,” Salem Bakeer, a member of the NTC fighters’ unit, said. “Then we went in on foot.

“One of Gaddafi’s men came out waving his rifle in the air and shouting surrender, but as soon as he saw my face he started shooting at me,” he told Reuters news agency.

“Then I think Gaddafi must have told them to stop. ‘My master is here, my master is here’, he said, ‘Muammar Gaddafi is here and he is wounded’,” Bakeer said.

“We went in and brought Gaddafi out. He was saying ‘What’s wrong? What’s wrong? What’s going on?’. Then we took him and put him in the car,” Bakeer said.

At the time of capture, Gaddafi was already wounded with gunshots to his leg and to his back, Bakeer said.

Other government fighters who said that they took part in Gaddafi’s capture, separately confirmed Bakeer’s version of events, though one said the man who ruled Libya for 42 years was shot and wounded at the last minute by one of his own men.

“One of Muammar Gaddafi’s guards shot him in the chest,” Omran Jouma Shawan said.

Amateur footage uploaded on YouTube seemed to corroborate claims that Gaddafi was captured alive.

In the video, a bloodied and dazed Gaddafi can be seen being propped up by two NTC fighters, as others grab at him and cheer “God is Great!”.

The leader’s bodyguards were all killed.

Gaddafi dies

After his capture, Gaddafi was placed in an ambulance bound for the city of Misrata. Witnesses say that he succumbed to his wounds while on the road.

However, Prime Minister Mahmoud Jibril told a news conference on Thursday that Gaddafi was not fatally wounded when placed in the ambulance, but killed when crossfire broke out in mid transport.

“Gaddafi was taken out of a sewage pipe … he didn’t show any resistance. When we started moving him he was hit by a bullet in his right arm and when they put him in a truck he did not have any other injuries’,” Jibril said.

“When the car was moving it was caught in crossfire between the revolutionaries and Gaddafi forces in which he was hit by a bullet in the head.

“The forensic doctor could not tell if it came from the revolutionaries or from Gaddafi’s forces.”

Jibril said Gaddafi died a few minutes before reaching a hospital.

While it is not clear what happened afterwards, another amateur video, presumably shot by an NTC fighter, shows a lifeless Gaddafi being dragged on the floor and sprawled out for a cheering crowd of fighters to see.

Gaddafi’s body was later loaded into a truck and taken to an undisclosed location.

“Gaddafi’s body is with our unit in a car and we are taking the body to a secret place for security reasons,” Mohamed Abdel Kafi, a NTC official in the city of Misrata said.

The final irony of Gaddafi’s life, which was strewn with eccentric and often anecdotes, was not lost on the victorious fighters, who Gaddafi had often decried as “rats”.

“He called us rats, but look where we found him,” Ahmed al-Sahati, a 27-year-old fighter, standing next to a drainage pipe where the former leader was found, said.



Al Jazeera and agencies

 And Compare To When He Was A Hero – A Great Lesson Here For All!

The Aged Ghaddafi

The Message – Stay with your people – Friends Outside are all temporary and artificial!!

Disappointing Results For Women! 4

Disappointing result for women
Saleh Al Shaibany
Mon Oct 17 2011 08:33:40 GMT+0400 (Arabian Standard Time) Oman Time
MUSCAT:Oman today celebrates the Woman’s Day, which coincides with a major disappointment for the 77 women candidates, from which only one emerged victorious, in an election dominated by men voting within their own tribes.Nuamah bint Jamayel bin Farhan bin Mubarak Al Busaidiyah, a school teacher from Seeb, is the only female candidate to win a seat in the 84-member Majlis Al Shura assembly and the first one to be elected since 2004. No woman is serving in the outgoing council.A woman candidate at Muscat came close – with over 2,000 votes – as a runner up but failed to secure the first spot.“It would have been great to celebrate Omani Woman’s Day with four or five women elected. I really thought this was going to be a historical election in terms of women, but sadly it was not,”
Fahima Al Rawahi, a school teacher at Al Azaiba, told Times of Oman.Not more than two women have been elected at any Majlis Al Shura Council since voting started in 1991. Other women too were disappointed, blaming men for voting for their tribal members.

“Many people across the country say that they saw groups of tribes of candidates in their home towns voting for their men. Most of these candidates who have been elected are not qualified to serve but they are in there because they belong to large tribes,” Fadhila Al Hosni, a receptionist at the Ministry of Agriculture and Fisheries, said.

The Ministry of Social Development marks Omani Woman’s Day today with an event at the Ministry of Education’s theatre at Wattayah.
Leading corporate houses in the country are also marking the day with celebrations and colorful events.

His Highness Sayyid Shihab bin Tariq Al Said, personal adviser of His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said, said that women deserved to take part in the democratic aspirations of Oman and without their participation, the nation would not be complete.

“Women are our partners in progress and their role in the Majlis Al Shura is much needed. They are as much educated and dedicated as men and we need them to make important decisions alongside men,” Sayyid Shihab said.


It’s a victory for Oman’s women,

says Naama

Mohamed Al Balushi

17/10/2011 10:02 am

Naama Jameel Farhan al Busaidi, the only woman candidate to win in the Majlis A’Shura polls, has dedicated her victory to all women in Oman. Naama won from Seeb by securing 626 votes in the elections held on Saturday.

“With this victory, all the women in the sultanate have won,” Naama, an activities specialist at the Mabela A’Shamaliya School, told Muscat Daily. “I am happy for every Omani woman, who will now be represented in the Shura Council. I won because people, especially women, trusted me and showed their faith in me.”

Naama said that she has been working in the education sector for 23 years, and added that she plans to fulfill the wishes of the residents of Seeb.

Some of the residents in the area expressed happiness at having elected the only woman in the Majlis A’Shura. “I have known her for many years, and she deserves this victory,” said Khalfan al Amri from Mabela. “She is very popular in the area as a good teacher.”

“It is great to see a woman win a seat,” said Ghahim al Amri, another resident of the area. “It is a big achievement that she is the only woman to have won from the 77 who contested across Oman.”

 My Comments

The same story – or The story of half-empty glass and half-full glass – you never win!

Today is Women’s Day Celebrations!

It is important that women had participated – winning or not winning! They need to be better organised next time. And that is where modernity clashes with traditions – because in great parts of society the women have to follow what their men say – still is a great start!

By Majid Al Suleimany

P.S. Women want equal rights? Welcome to Equal Rights – and no pun intended! I am a father of 3 daughters – and 1 son!

Nobody cares what I say here – but it would not be a bad idea if the three women with the highest number of votes (or percentages) were to be nominated to represent Omani Women in Majlis Ash’hura!

Okay you will say what about the men who did not win with equal votes and percentages? Are you not creating a precedent here. I do not know – maybe you have a point too!

Take Care!


The Elections Remembrances! Reply

Dear All & After Compliments;

Yesterday Saturday October 15th 2011 were elections for The Consultative Assembly in Oman or better known as Majlis Ash’shura with as many as 1133 candidates competing for the 84 seats representing 61 Wilayats (Provinces) in Oman. 77 women contested in the elections – and being the 7th elections so far in the Sultanate. Registerd voters are about 518,000 in 105 Polling Stations throughout the Nation.

It reminded me of the time when still in Tanzania in the early 1970s when our Higher Secondary School students were sent to assist at the Polling Stations. We were required to report like what we have in Oman as The Walis – or The Area Commissioners AC(from ex Colonial Times of District Commissioners – or more famous as The DCs!).

The shock of my life as a teenager is being called in front of the AC – an indigeneous National – and he telling me – “I have appointed you Mr. Nasser (that is what they used to call me as a term of respect!) as The Presiding Official at this centre of Ilala – one of the big districts in the city of Dar es Salaam – the capital!

Please keep in mind that I was of Arab Origin (Omani born parents and grandparents!) and this was AFTER the assasination of their Zanzibar Island President Abeid Amani Karume. I was at first thinking to decline when he called the Electoral Officials to introduce me to my new role. My Headmaster – also an African Indigeneous – was smiling broadly and congratulating me on the trust, faith and confidence being given to me – and what being secular is allabout!

Frankly, I was really scared, timid and worried – first being a student and second on my ethnicity and origins. He then called the Presiding Police Official Commander – and he introduced me to the Other Police and Electoral Officials.

My authority was to decide on complex issues and ambiguities – and to supervise all the elections procedures and administrative cum management. That includes okaying or not okaying candidates to be allowed to vote who came with no sufficient documents to prove citizenship – and for those coming from other regions of the country to be allowed to vote here. I had suddenly power to control, monitor abnd dominate my fellow school mates – and the other officials.

Some of them were against me being in the limelight – and had even said by the side in Swahili – Anaye Kunyima Mbaazi Anakupunguziyaa Mashuuzi! Literally and more polite meaning – The one who denies you (kidney) beans just reduces the gas for you in return (advantage!)…

As I entered and left I was being saluted – and I felt so embarrassed because I did not know then how to salute back! My job also included sealing and signing the electoral boxes – and transporting them under my supervision to the AC Office – and where The Central Committee Electoral Officials went.

They all thanked me for the good works done – and I had never felt so elated and proud for this trust and confidence to me – and yesterday it all came back in thoughts and feelings.

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany ,,,

Realities of Life! – By Majid Al Suleimany. 3

Facing Realities In Life!

Before I start, you will forgive me in my usual style of quoting my own examples – or near cases – because first of all there is no better examples and comparisons to give – and more importantly you also do escape a lot of things  that Writers like us nowadays of have to be careful for – and some from least expected quarters!

Yesterday night a good fiend of mine an ex work peer told me the sad news that he was going abroad for medical treatment – because his cancer case had returned – and he thought he had beaten it after being treated first abroad a few years back. He said to me – forgive me if I have done anything against you – and in case I do not return!

I also want to quote this story to you as an opener.

1          The Post Office Man

There was a man who worked for the Post Office whose job it was to process all the mail that had illegible addresses. One day, a letter came addressed in a shaky handwriting to God. He thought he should open it to see what it was about.

The letter read:

Dear God,

I am an 83 year old widow, living on a very small pension. Yesterday someone stole my purse. It had $100.00 in it, which was all the money I had until my next pension check. Next Sunday is Christmas and I had invited two of my friends over for dinner.

Without that money, I have nothing to buy food with. I have no family to turn to and you are my only hope. Can you please help me?



The postal worker was touched. He showed the letter to all the other workers. Each one dug into his or her wallet and ca! m e up with a few dollars. By the time he made the rounds, he had collected $96, which they put into an envelope and sent to the woman. The rest of the day, all the workers felt a warm glow thinking of Edna and the dinner she would be able to share with her friends.

Christmas came and went. A few days later, another letter came from the old lady to God. All the workers gathered around while the letter was opened.

It read:

Dear God,

How can I ever thank you enough for what you did for me? Because of your gift of love, I was able to fix a glorious dinner for my friends. We had a very nice day and I told my friends of your wonderful gift. By the way, there was $4.00 missing. I think it must have been those thieving bastards at the Post Office.

2          Et tu, Brute (And you too, Brutus) : Origin and Meaning

What does Et tu Brute mean?

These words are said to have been Julius Caesars last words after being assassinated on the Ides of March

This by a group of  Senators, including Marcus Brutus, someone he had considered a close friend.

A number of translations exist:-

“And you, Brutus?”

“You too, Brutus?”

“Even you Brutus?”

“And you, (too) Brutus?”

Today, this quotation is mostly used to refer to an act of ultimate betrayal, usually from a trusted person.

The source of this quote appears to be from William Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar: –

“Caesar: Doth not Brutus bootless kneel?

Casca: Speak, hands, for me! (They stab Caesar.)

Caesar: Et tu, Brute? Then fall, Caesar! (Dies.)

Cinna: Liberty! Freedom! Tyranny is dead!”

3          The Story of The Scorpion and The Frog

(From The Arab Short Stories and Tales – also from My Book Between Us Only!).

Have you heard this story?

A scorpion saw a frog.  So he told the frog – I have my relative who is sick on the other side of the river.  I want to go to visit him.  Can you carry me across?

The frog said – do you think I was born yesterday?  If I do that you will sting me on my back and I shall then die.  The scorpion said – How can I do that?  Did I not just now request you to carry me  across?  Do you take to be crazy or stupid?   The frog was convinced.  So it said to the scorpion – okay jump on my back!

As they were crossing the river, the scorpion said – see, you did not trust me – now do you believe me?  Did I sting you?  No – said the frog – I am sorry.  Ten minutes later half-way the river – the scorpion stung the frog.

‘Whatever are  you doing?  Do you know what you have just done?  I shall now die – and you will drown too.  Yes – replied the scorpion – I know!

But it is my nature – I just cannot change.

4          Human Species are The Worst Traitors.

It is acknowledged that Human beings are the worst in deception and in lying. The worst that will turn on their own. Next I am told are the monkeys (chimpanzees) as most near men – though other animals have been known to do it – like driving away the Old Lion King by younger lions to take over the colony!

Thus the old lion joke – I am too old to chase any preys now, I just sit under the tree and wait for leftovers – or weak animals that will stray to my path.

5           Our Religious Book (The Sunnah andThe Hadith) are Full of stories of deception and traitorship – and done against even our Great Prophets of God (Peace Be Upon Them)

6          Ghandi said it too!

You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean – if a few drops of the ocean are dirty – the ocean does not become dirty!

Also – I  claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and retrace my steps ..Mahatma Ghandi.

You simply cannot change human nature!

The Realities of Life!

Did you know that life is a continuous Learner to us of all?. Sometimes one may tend to think that in death then that is the end of learning as it is, but is it really so? For us Believers when we do die (God Give us all long life and health – Amin!), we are made to lie on our right side facing Mecca. Now how many of us sleep that way in our daily lives? I do not know about you, but I surely do not do it that way!

I know you are asking yourself where is this leading to, after reading the topic? Well, Dear Reader, just give me some more space to explain myself, or those who may feel adversarial may comment – give him enough rope to hang himself!

I have never kidded myself that I have all friends out there, so I am practical and realistic too. There is this famous expression the  East Africans like to quote – That which bites your skin comes from the  same fabric that is being worn by you. Or as a relative likes to  satirically likes to comment – ‘Between Us Only’ whenever he has something (stupid!)  to say, especially when I am around to hear it! But then life will not be  complete and beautiful without all these kinds of peoples amongst our midst to  make our day more beautiful and make life worth living for!

They say in life there are two kinds of peoples. You  either fit in one or the other – you cannot sit on the fence and pretend you  belong to neither. As I had said in this column before, (Lady I think?)  Margaret Thatcher had said – Those who sit on the fence get pelted by  both sides – or words to that effect.

My Dear Reader, let me put it this way. You are very  thirsty. You go to an Office, and they are still after your business hoping  that you will still buy from them, then they ask you – What are you having? (Notice that as soon as you have bought the offers are not there anymore, or  have dwindled in frequencies?). Actually the sentence itself is a misnomer –  because it should mean nothing, and English is a strange language. So automatically  or by default you answer back – Can I have a glass of water please? The  water is delivered to you. You look at the glass, it is not full – so what is
your reaction? Either (you may think it all inside or even ask it loud too):-

(a)  The glass is half empty – what?

(b)  The glass is half full – thank you anyway!

Now, Dear Reader, which one are you?

That is the beauty of life, or the twists, turns and  ironies of life.

The same picture can be seen differently by different  peoples. Have you had these tests? They show you a picture and ask you what you  see? Depending on your sight and view of life, you either see a very pretty  young beautiful girl, or a very ugly old lady! They show you another picture  and ask you what you see now? And you either see a smiling cheerful man, or a  very sad looking man. I was once very embarrassed when I was asked to tell what  I saw, and there was a gasp in the class as to what my inclinations were, but I  will not bore you with details and keep the secret with me till I die anyway.  Point taken that from that date onwards I had never volunteered a quick answer  till others had their say first!

Anyway, coming back to the issue of the water in the  glass! Majority of peoples would normally say Thank you for the half full of  water glass. If they needed more water, they may well ask – can I have  another glass please?  These are the  positive out looking peoples, appreciative of kindness and some bread crumbs  thrown to their way, but there will be still some who will sarcastically remark  – how much did you pay for the water? Why are you giving mean a half empty  glass of water?

These are the kinds of peoples that are never appreciative  of kind gestures, kindness, good or mercy of any kind done to them. They are  always mean, ghastly dastardly cruel and always finding faults to a tune. Even  if others do not see it, for sure for them they will be able to! Whatever you  do for or to them is not enough – they never appreciate anything and are always  complaining and finding fault. Apportioning blame. No problem to make you the  ‘fall guy’ or the ‘scape goat’ and cause of all their misfortunes and troubles!  If you have a parent or boss of this kind, woe unto you Dear Friend!

They may remind you of incidences long past and best  left forgotten – but they will still do it. If you have wronged them, even  unintentionally and inadvertently, they will never let it go and never forgive  you. For the rest of their lives they will hound and pursue you, the slightest  mistake you make – they will jump on you with guns blazing. They never forgive  and forget, even if the shrewder ones may pretend to be forgiving and  forgetting, but it is still in the back of their minds.

These are very dangerous peoples, and they can easily  without any remorse or conscience destroy your life, career and future – and  kill and character assassinate you too – and put you in untold miseries,  hardships and difficulties.

These are peoples best to avoid and never annoy  and confronteven if you maybe right. They will make vicious  campaigns against you and try to harm and destroy you. It gives them great  sadistic immense great pleasure and happiness when they have succeeded in doing  so!

That is life for you, and the meaning of life – its  ups and downs.

Long time back when I was a kid there was this old  African lady, whom I respected and esteemed. I always greeted her nicely  whenever I had met her. She was staying by herself all alone, abandoned by her  family. I do not know if she was the lady who had complained in the past to her  relatives of being given ‘half empty glass of water’,

But with me she was always kind and treated me like her grandson. So this lady told me one day  – grandson, do you like chicken? I was wondering what to reply thinking  maybe she wanted to cook one for me? Seeing me surprised, she went on – If  you follow a chicken and see what it eats, you will never eat a chicken again  in your life, even if you like chicken! The message was clear – it is best  not to delve and look into details into things, and best leave some things best  as they are! All Alone!

An old fisherman friend to the family said of the same things – if you follow a crab or lobster – it is the same story!

My First  Column Article.

With my first article titled “More  Dangerous and Troubled Waters Ahead” that first appeared in this column on 23rd April 2003 (after the Iraq invasion)  – I had said – Quote – Now those of you  who know me well would recall that I am not by profession or even by design a  military analyst or military expert, or even a political expert one at that

However, I had warned of the dangerous spiraling of events into more  dangers, troubles, and malaise and decadence post-Iraq invasion. So far what I  had said there and predicted has come to pass. Than how come it that this ‘own  true son of the land’ is still unemployed and gone unnoticed, I ask you?

In my jobs life, I have always believed  in respectable esteeming treatment of my Staff. My door has always been open to  them. Some even call me at home, raising ‘jealousy levels’ at home when it is  the ladies who will call. I listen to my Staff; I hear them too (didn’t you  know there is a difference between the two?). The Staff who stands up to me is  never judged as a ‘Personal danger or threat’ – I respect that. I hate  ‘Yes-Sir’ Staff. I also hate ‘Tell-Tales’ Staff in trying to please me.

You can  ask any of my Staff who worked with me, I am sure they will affirm to what I am  saying here. When I worked for one small firm, I had arranged for a  welcome-party-after-delivery-thing for one of my lady Staff.

The day I left the  place, she cried. This had never happened in that company’s plus twenty years  existence. I can never forget you – and now you are going…

When I had any issue with a Staff, I believed in calling in the  person and trash out the issue vis-à-vis (face to face), and no other way. The  last thing I would do is write that Staff an Official letter, and then discuss  with him. I would discuss with the Staff, and then put it in writing as ‘A  Gentleman’s Agreement’ of where we had reached! As a matter of record and for  future reference only, and for nothing else! Not for punishment; nor for  vengeance!

You know in all my life, I have been a  ‘Pusher’. I always and firmly believe in ‘Live and Let Live’. I am  always a great believer and always after a ‘win-win thing’ (remember my  last 2 weeks’ back article? Win Some; Lose Some!).

I stand my grounds and  issues. I let no one scare me to make me change what I strongly believe in! Yet  if I make a mistake, I am not stubborn – I shall accept it and apologise!

Do you know what people really want? You turn the other cheek when they slap you – or poke fingers in your eyes – you do not raise your hand to protect yourself – even if they wiull take the eyes out!

Do not squarm – or complain! Who are you to have such audacity? It is this reason why everything is burning around us now!

Making Employees always happy was all I had wanted!

Frankly and  honestly, I am always against unfairness and  injustice, favouritism and unethical unprofessional behaviour. If some peoples think that is aggressiveness, then let them continue  to think so!. In the Management classes, I was always classified by the Lecturers ‘As the ‘Leader who cares, feels and stands with his Staff. 

Polite, kind and decent and tactful too’ Leadership style!. Besides one  should not judge a person by what others paint him from what he is not really  (by the cover of the book). Don’t you agree?

Thanks to the MBA course and  post-my company (after early retirement) experiences, I have now learnt  that the best way to transform changes and systems are from within, rather than  confront from outside. I am fully aware that some companies tend to prefer softer approach.

Criticisms can be healthy when only considered positively. In  life they say – You can never know how far out you can go, until you have  tried. Or birds can fly because they know they can! Did you hear about Murphy’s Law? That  things will only get worse, before they can get any better!

The  Africans have this * expression – sometimes just a kind word or compliment can  do wonders (* you can even draw that snake out of a rock, praise its  beautiful eyes, and ask ‘just to see it’). I think this is the reason that many  have misunderstood and misjudged me in my last jobs.

It is not that I do not  say NO too like the others – I too do it and am a Team Player – but it is the  question of how I say it – with care and feelings touch, and also to explain
why too!

I  never broke any rules or regulations, possibly bend them a bit in really acute  and taxing situations – letting humanity set in, with no distinction in any  way!

When  the chips are down and things are at its lowest ebb – it is not easy to face  someone with your problem, and that needs intervention, help and assistance.  You have to swallow your pride, esteem and honour.

Not for yourself, but for  those who depend on you to look after them! The Swahilis call it ‘Kuchonga  Uso’ which literally means ‘to carve up one’s face’ – that is how hard and difficult  it is to some – but than what other alternatives do they have?

Sometinmes the people that can hurt and pain you the most are those supposed to be close and near you – like your wife, family and children – friends and relatives – when they become (unexpectedly?) mean, selfish, self-centred and even evil against you! So what do you do? Sulk in – and go in deep distress and self destruction – or hold up your head high?

Eve did it to Adam – so what else is new?

Actually  I am indebted to the person who really ‘SAVED’ me is this esteemed paper –  offered me a Free Lance Column Writer job! And you know what – they say in the  Management spheres, if they can pay you whilst still doing your hobby and  interests, you have made it!

Certainly I do not feel so. Though the money is  not that much and always delayed, but at least I get paid for a hobby and interest in writing per  se! Besides, my salary (pension) just evaporates into the Bank’s Accounts as  soon as they receive it from that old good company of mine!

What else can I do,  I ask you? It is as if I am not getting any pension after working for more than  25 years of dedicated and loyal services to The Company – and to The Nation.

Ironically, sadly and tragically the same Bank that takes away all a Pensioner’s salary – is the same bank introducing a Pension Savings Scheme – but yet in an Arab and Muslim country – the same bank is ‘screwing up’ Pensioners by taking all a Pensioner (mine!) salary. The lessons of Tunisia, Egypt, Yemen, Bahrain, Syria is easily and conveniently forgotten – and all too soon too!

How despicable and pathetic one can get?

In my life, I have helped so many others in my prime before, but this is now all easily and  conveniently forgotten now! No one remembers, or wants to! I have personal  references in good men CEOs who will stand by me, because they have seen ‘The  real me’ and I in action too. One has become even a very close personal friend  too. When he says – I wish I had met you long time back, but I have still  time to change my Management styles. Surely that must mean something?

I had great opportunities to ‘get quick  rich thing’ – but in all my life I have NEVER taken anything that did  not belong to me. Nor do I intend to start now at this age either! Not everyone  can be an accursed and bad peoples.

Some of us are quite different.  Born different and in outlook, perspectives and in behaviours.

Being at the top does not mean being  always unscrupulous, evil, shrewd, mean, bad and ugly!

Or being shunned and  cursed at!

So next time you feel like being judgemental, criticizing and to be opinionated  – think of what I have just said!

E-Mails In Hindsight.

It is immaterial and of no consequence of the fact that I had already  opted out from a sinking ship by going for an Early Enhanced (Voluntary)  Retirement. It is immaterial of the fact that my pension should have taken care  of me and my family for that matter had I the smartness, foresight, vision and  brains not to try to be an entrepreneur and get myself involved into such  business at late stage of my life, into a Consultancy business of Human  Resources Development that was supposed to take off naturedly as being the talk  and craze in town to encourage development and entrepreneurship – especially  this sector – but instead ended with a big thud and crash.

It is immaterial and of no  consequence that the ‘big attractive contract’ that my Consultancy was bidding  for and had won would cause the fall and demise of the company for a lower  bidding, though successful to get it though. Even though they had promised us  ‘Take this now, we will give you more in the future’ – but none came!

It is immaterial and of no consequence also of the fact that the  International Consultant with us were paid three times (if not more) to the  same job scope and aspects that we too as a local fully Omani owned Consultancy  were to do – and yet for a large National Company too.

It is immaterial and of no consequences now either that at the interviews  there were younger Omani Candidates (some of them educationally even higher  educated than me.

But with little or minimal work experiences and exposures –  25 years in that big oil company in all Human Resources aspects and on top of 6  years as a HR Expert and Consultant. And they were ‘surprised’ to see ‘Uncle’  in the competition too!

Immaterial and of no consequence that too that there were Expatriates who  were retired and older than me too in the same place – but of course being from  different ethnic backgrounds (overseas) were opened doors to come in!

Whilst  for me the citizen of the land the doors were closed in front of my face –  including windows too that were barred shut from inside.

Immaterial too and of no consequence whatsoever that jobs supposed to be  reserved for the likes of us Nationals of the land, were given instead to  Expatriates based on personality basis (whom you know!), and that too  International Companies supposed to be of high repute and fame and their  Corporate and Social culture, values and missions cum vision to develop and  encourage local available talents, experts and competences.

Finally, it is immaterial and of no consequence either when ‘some of  those’ doing these jobs are not even experienced and professional peoples in  this line of business at all, but their being pretty things and of different  ethnicity (or other attractions) allows them in?

What do you do? Complain and write in your book and column? Nobody hears  or listens to you anymore now. Yet they brand you a colour you do not have nor  ever aim to have in your life. They stereotype you. Prototype you.

You are  trouble. Your name is not glory but just headache and trouble. You are to be  avoided, ignored and to be discarded.

Even from the filthy rich who had made it in life, from humble poor  levels and beginnings that you were in together, and shared the same corridors  in the Offices before at one time. From the big profile peoples whom you had  looked after and handled their cases more personally than official requirements  when they were just students with many sick and other family situation.

Would they remember you? Bet your life they have conveniently forgotten,  and just do not want anything coming from you. Just nothing!

What The Bosses Had  Said – Saying Goodbyes…

1          Majid is a very caring, kind and  spiritual person – a shame and pity that many do not give him the time and the
efforts to understand him better – American CEO

2          His coming here was like A Fresh Blow  of Wind – now that he has gone the air is more stale than ever before!” – British  GM

3          Some time back I met this old European  boss of mine who came to visit Oman.  He  is now working for a very powerful conglomerate and in a very high  position.  He nearly made me cry when he  said to me – I knew M the day I had left that you will not go far in your  career because of what you are as a person and in outlook.

But  I still have the highest  respects, esteem and like for you, in actual case the few I had always  remembered.  Because you are a real  professional ethical (and courageous) person who had the courage (audacity?) to  stand up to me and tell me what I was doing then was actually wrong – not like  the others who pretended to go along with me, but behind my back were saying  something different to those they ‘really trusted and had confidence with’.

4          I have a good boss friend of  mine.  He tells me this point blank ‘of  what is wrong with you’.

Stop caring and  feeling – it just does not pay (or at least increase your salary!).  Be rough – hit your heart strongly and just  say – I just do not care or feel anymore.  You said your bit – nobody cared to hear or listen, so move along.  Just take care of yourself and your direct  family members only.  The others and rest  are not important.

5          I had an expatriate  CEO once – he told me what? You are giving me just your hand to say goodbye? I cannot have that. Come here! And the poor man hugged me kissing me on both  cheeks. That I had to bend my face (he being short!) is another issue, and his  hands could not get around me (remember that diet!).

The same had happened to  me with a British lady boss, who I had thought not cared but she did the same wiping  her face. I gave her my handkerchief – it was clean anyway! She tells me she  still has it – for remembrance sake (do not worry, madam does not read my  articles!).

6          This  Indian Peer Manager says to me – Are you really leaving us now? I cannot  believe it! But I can appreciate your position – even I am looking for a  position outside – have not got it yet! But I will leave – as soon as I get a  good offer elsewhere (he left later on!).

He caught my hand  and kissed it in goodbye. I had never been so embarrassed in my life before –  till then!

7          Always  it had been those in the lower rungs that cared more as I left. It was the  Indian Tea Maker in Abu Dhabi – the old man cried! Who is going to say Thank  You now to me (as he served me tea – a thing that really upset my Emirati  National Boss. Do you want me to say thank you, every time you did something  for me? What is wrong with you – he screamed to me!

8          If the machines closed down, it triggered an Emergency code to The  USA CEO in Dubai. So he called The Production Manager – what is going on? He  gets the reply – all the Staff have switched off the machines – they are saying  Goodbyes to Majid – and escorting him to the gate! Some are visibly upset and  angry – some are sad! That includes the Non Omani Staff too. Yet I had come in  7 months back to take over The Human Resources Manager job from an Indian peer  – who had been in the position for the last 12 years – till the position was  Omanised by me.

One of the Indian  Technicians pleads – Why sir? Who will look after us now?

9    I always believe this. If there is unfairness and injustice – Allah God takes away blessings from anything. It can perhaps explain all the chaos and commotions – and why everything is burning now around us! And the reduced everyday incomes, profits and sustainibilities – and the increased chaos, confusions and corruptions – and so much sadness and unhappiness!

Allah God Protect and Preserve us all from His Anger and Fury – Amin Amen!

By Majid Al Suleimany

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Introduction To The Author.

Majid Al Suleimany is an Author. Majid is also a columnist for The Oman Daily Observer. He is a management and human resources expert, consultant, and professional. Married with four children, retired – he lives in Oman.

He was congratulated for his first article, My Most Vivid Dream, by The Aga Khan in 1960s in Tanzania. He wrote for Petroleum Development Oman – PDO Al Fahal Magazine. Two articles, A New Outlook On Omanisation and Stray Thoughts On Traffic, were reproduced by The Times of Oman, where he used to be a contributor.

He returned to The Oman Daily Observer as a weekly columnist writing Between Us Only! and At My Workplace! He is also a Columnist with KOM – Knowledge Oman – Society Speaks! He is now writing a book titled Sinking Deeper – No Money? No Honey!

Books Published (Five)

• February 2005 Between Us Only! – sponsored by MB and PetroGas, published by Al Nahda Printing Press in Oman.

• November 2008 The Sequel – Between Us Only! – published by Trafford in Canada.

• January 2009 Short Takes – Between Us Only! – published by BookSurge in the United States.

• May 2009 Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Series, published by Trafford in Canada.

• February 2010 A Cry For Help! – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Series, published by Trafford in Canada and the United States. Latest book on Arab Management.

 • Books sold in Oman in WHSmith and Family bookshops – see www.majidbooks.com  on how to order the books.

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