Helping To Build Masjids (Mosques) in Tanzania! Reply

Helping To Build Masjids (Mosques) in Tanzania!

Not only in mosques but others also like in digging water wells, social centres and to assist in programmes for The Needy, Helpless, Hungry and The Desperate.

See my article in www.majidall.comhttp://majidall.com/2012/07/20/between-us-only-ramadhan-kareem-july-22nd-2012/

Others there too!

Our family are proud to have contributed – amongst others – to build this Masjid – Mosque – in the village of Kirongwe in Mafia Island in Tanzania.

This is the place that we grew up with and as mentioned in my books – www.myown-ebooks.com and in my columns as above.

Please see the Photos – and the happy proud people inside. Hopefully we can all learn from all these to be better human beings – see my previous Post here too.

Masjid is now in use in this Holy Month of Fasting!

 

Masjid Images.

Best Wishes and Regards – Ramadhan Kareem!

Majid Al Suleimany

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The Aftermath! By Majid Al Suleimany Reply

For Wednesday August 1st 2012

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The Aftermath!

After my last week article titled “Living together as one in peace and harmony!” – I had received considerable responses in my websites – including some personal Emails and Messages. Overall, there was support and allegiances in what was written. I found very encouraging some responses sympathizing and in support coming also from broad minded objective pragmatic and secular foreigners too! Oman was indicated as an example and a ‘beacon of hope’ for mankind of how people can live together as one in peace, love and harmony – and the respects and esteem given to foreigners in the country!

However, like in most cases, there were some dissenting forces and I find the following as one of the strongest. As an Administrator of my own blogs, I do accept that the names given are ‘perhaps not that real’ – but this does not bother me at all – as I look more on content than who is sending it!

One of the contributors had said – Quote – Message: I have read some of the articles. The best part I mostly enjoy is that you write from the bottom of your heart. All the information is based on your 35 years of experience and not from stories told by friends or read from books.

Your writing skills are excellent. I pray to ALLAH INSHALLAH you succeed in your dreams and that day where all positions are filled with qualified Omanis only. Your are one of the very few Omanis who disclose the pain we Omanis endure because of the expatriates – unquote.

In my book A Cry For Help! – http://www.myown-ebooks.com – see above image – I have highlighted the problems and issues being faced by especially qualified and educated young Omanis – especially when they want to join – or are accepted in ‘by a pointing barrel of a gun’ to take them in’ so to speak – excuse the melodrama! Even qualified and fully experienced Omanis for that matter too!

That is why I wrote the book – so my conscience can be clear and clean that I have done my part in saying it ‘as it is’! The rest is not upto me!

After the book was published – it was the last time that I received any job offers – even temporary and or consultancy – and any that I received after that did not last much longer – and I was a victim of my own situation and circumstances. Sadly and tragically from even fellow Omanis GMs and others – because they are susceptible to receive the advices and counsels of the ‘active foreign hands’ – so to speak!

It is a double-edged sword that cuts both ways – but the future for sure is for the young Omanis in their destiny, legacy and future – whether this is accepted or not – does not matter!

In one well known case what I thought was a friend and whom I had confided on my misgivings – was God Forgive me in this Holy Month of Fasting – perhaps instrumental after him meeting with this GM I knew well before – and as already said in my columns to leave within half an hour with the ultimatum given to continue in that place. I need money for sure – but respects and esteem more!

Though truthfully only some of the ‘bad eggs (fish)’ are only few expatriates – but the majority are also indifferent and may even be supportive on the sidelines – as they seem to think this will work for them to their advantages. Let us not forget also the die-hards old guards in Top Management – and Owners – especially family-run – but sadly can even go across to bigger and National places – that these things should not happen – or allow to happen!

In one of the places where a family member was looking for a visa for even business travel – not holidays – an Official sarcastically asked him if ‘you belong to that guy who seems to write a lot in newspapers? Actually it is only one newspaper – but people can be free to say what they want – especially when they think they are in-charge and in-control! I had a good mind to go and meet him – but then I remembered I had better things to do – than bang my head against brick walls!

I am still that much sure and convinced that a time will still yet to come and to pass when people will wish they had been more fair, professional and ethical towards me. Hopefully before I die! But after my books – and seeing all the things happening around us – when one or two send me messages like above – I believe my work has been done – and my conscience is now clear.

Even the book on Road Safety – Behind The Wheel! – with just few exceptions – took a beating. Yet we all know how bad the state of driving has become – and the increased road accidents, tragedies and fatalities – yet a noble and National worthy cause too – but still targeted and singled out for sure! Simply because if this book will be a success – people might want to read my other books – where they are most targeted!

What more I can say now?

Take Care!

By:

Majid Al Suleimany

All About Me! Reply

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Majid Al Suleimany – My Brief Profile

May 29, 2011

Majid Al Suleimany is a Senior Human Resources Professional and Management Consultant, Advisor and Expert.

An Omani National (GCC), British educated, and trained to Post Graduate levels and with over 25 (Twenty Five) years experiences and exposures in Senior positions in all aspects of Human Resources Management, HR Development, Training and Management in the largest Oman Oil Company Petroleum Development Oman – PDO – (Exploration and Production) – with 700,000 bpd and over 5000 Staff. He was directly responsible for over 900 Staff, both at National and at International levels, and with direct budget control of US Dollars 12 million p.a.

In addition, he has over 10 (Ten) years experiences and exposures in Human Resources and in Management Consultancy and being directly responsible for various New Start Ups Projects (both for Local and International Companies in Oman) in The Oil and Gas, Services, Manufacturing, Consultancy, Power Generation, Utility, Property Development and other sectors.

He has also been directly involved and responsible for various Studies, Projects and Research works – including some that had won International Awards (SIPC – Shell International Petroleum Company).

Majid lives in Muscat in The Sultanate of Oman, is married with four children (3 girls, 1 boy) and 3 grandchildren (all girls). His wife works as an Executive Secretary in Petroleum Development Oman. Family website at www.majidsuleimany.com

Majid is now semi-retired and works from home as a Management and HR Consultant – please
visit www.mas-trac.com He is a Columnist in The Oman Daily Observer (Between Us Only! – English Daily – www.betweenusonly.com ) every Sunday and the new column at My Workplace every Wednesday – also at Knowledge Oasis Oman – Community Speaks.

Majid is an Author of Five Books – Two being in Management – please visit www.myown-ebooks.com www.majidbooks.com www.alsuleimany.comwww.majidalsuleimany.com and www.betweenusonly.com .

And this newone at www.majidsn.com

Omanisation – T and D – Training and Development – By Ms. Raya al Kharusi Reply

OPINION – MUSCAT DAILY

Omanisation – Training and Development – T & D.

By Ms. Raya al Kharusi – Muscat Daily – July 24th 2012.

July 24, 2012

Despite the many scholarships and training assignments made available to school-leavers by His Majesty the Sultan’s government, we must bear in mind that success is not the result of attainment of education but is the outcome of doing what you want and enjoy doing.

Hence, every employer should and must draw out career and development plans to get the best out of employees. An employee who gets satisfaction out of his/her duties will be pleased with the working environment and will strive to get optimum output and remain a faithful member of the organisation.

Training and development go hand in hand. All plans should assess the staff performance, staff preference (to a certain extent) but more importantly should convey to the staff that a long-term career and development plan is in place for them and what the targets are. It is important to take into account attitude as well as performance when giving assignments and promoting staff.

There are some establishments which have systems wherein promotion is based on a combination of qualifications and years of service, not taking into account the actual skill-set of the employee under consideration, nor their ability, or lack thereof, to perform at a higher level of responsibility. This is de-motivating since initiative is destroyed, commitment is tempered and performance tends to become negatively impacted.

Promotion must be considered as a result of a job well done in accordance with long term career and development plans – where the employee is expected to be, at what level, over what period of time, taking into consideration a career that is projected to continue until retirement age is reached. Staff preference, when feasible, should be taken into consideration when plans are drawn out as this creates greater buy-in to the decisions made. It is important that these plans should be communicated to them. In this way, staff know that their employer takes them into consideration as tools worth developing and in some cases as future supervisors, managers, etc.

Responsibility given to staff spurs them to perform better, and directly works on developing their management skills. However, it should be noted that there is nothing more demotivating than not acknowledging a job well done. Praise should be given when due and recognised.

In many establishments in Oman, staff who are performing well and achieving their targets (if given targets and goals) are not recognised but their supervisors/managers are given credit, which leads to lower morale among staff. This issue is exacerbated in many private sector companies/banks in the sultanate, as in most cases, the staff tend to be Omani nationals, and the management, in most instances, expatriates. Especially, when national staff who are the backbone of a department and who know their duties inside out are made to train so called ‘experts’ who should inherently not require this training as they have been brought in to impart their expertise, and not gain it on-the-job, while earning much more than the staff training them.

This further demotivates staff, creating unwanted barriers, and no doubt further reduces impetus and commitment. Being overlooked is the worst blow to any talent especially in your own country.

What is needed is to have a career and development plan for all categories of staff including low-grade staff, and by that I mean even a ‘farash’, the local term for a messenger/tea-boy. The reason is that in this latter category there may be some excellent brains and talent which, due to circumstances, were not given or could not avail of further opportunities for education. Assessment of this category of staff may uncover latent skills and abilities which may contribute positively to the workforce. Language training in English (being the lingua franca) goes a long way to instill faith in one’s employer since this is the opening of the door, if only slightly, to start with. I say this with confidence and experience, as over the course of my career I have had the pleasure of seeing many Omanis, who thought they were confined to low-paying grades for the rest of their lives, rise to the challenges set and run with the opportunity provided to them.

What needs to be taken into account when drawing out career, development and succession plans? Education and experience play a great role but should not be the ‘be all and end all’. Skill-set, attitude, man-management, performance, commitment and responsibility are all very important factors. When all these aspects are accounted for and considered then there is a double benefit, serving both the employee and employer.

The employee will know what their projected career-path is in a given time scale, and will also know what skills/requirements they will need to develop to be aligned with their career and development plan. In the event that they are not satisfied with their career and development plan then it is clear to them that maybe the future they envisioned for themselves is not in the organisation in which they are currently employed, and that their aspirations may be better pursued elsewhere. For the employer, if all goes according to plan, the establishment will know what sort of make-up staff-wise it will have after so many years. This will help it organise its recruitment drive accordingly whilst at the same time continue to consolidate its overall employee base.

As my readers will notice, I have not made any mention of the remuneration packages since I am of the firm belief a good employer with good un-biased management will ensure that staff are remunerated according to criteria that is both fair and manageable. Credit where credit is due, whether the employee is a degree-holder or not. To retain high-fliers and good performers the employer must ensure equality in treatment without respect to national or expatriate.

Unfortunately, in many instances, this is not the case, and the reason given is that in order to be able to recruit expatriates we need to offer them ‘attractive’ packages. Do we really?! Even if this is the case, does the discrepancy need to be so wide as to reach as much as four or five fold in remuneration packages between holders of the same position but of different nationalities? Shouldn’t the Omani employee be accorded the same ‘attractive’ package? This is the question that all employers should deeply consider.

Employer/employee relations based on mutual respect will

enable the establishment to perform better and reach greater heights due to employees identifying themselves with their

organisations and having faith that their welfare is tied to the welfare and well-being of their employers.

Raya al Kharusi is a mother, grandmother, world affairs spectator and human resources consultant. She graduated with a Master of Arts degree from the School of Oriental and African Studies at the University of London in 1971

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Please Remember The Needy This Ramadhan! By Majid Al Suleimany Reply

For Sunday July 22nd 2012

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 Between Us Only!

 Ramadhan Kareem! 

v  O you who believe! Fasting is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become God-fearing – The Quran, 2:183

 Ramadan is the month in which was sent down The Quran as a guide to Mankind, and clear (signs) for guidance and judgment (between right and wrong). So everyone who is present (at his home) during that month, should spend it in fastingal-Baqarah 2:185

v  When the month of Ramadhan starts, the gates of the Heaven are opened and the gates of Hell are closed and the devils are chained. 

Whilst we are now in the 1433 AH Ramadhan – a few points to ponder first! How many of those we fasted together last year have left us? How many that are sick and ailing can no longer fast with us now? And a few minutes patience – especially at break up fast time – can save many more lives and injuries on the roads – especially as this month always carry the highest of statistics? And whilst we are at it – remember the lesser fortunate to us – within the country – and also outside! This is also the month of forgiveness – and getting together as one in the spirit of heart of fasting the Holy month!

I was watching this Al Jazeera Television programme showing how the economy hard-hit and the poor families in certain countries in Europe were coping in their daily lives now. Associations have sprung up to help the poor and needy by going to supermarkets and shops for them to contribute food for the noble worthy cause of feeding these groups of people. In actual fact, without these campaigns many of the families would have gone without their daily lives’ needs to feed themselves – and cope in life!

The donors contribute still good edible food and packages – some may  have dented tins or unpacked proper wraps – but the food is still edible and good. In some they are nearing expiry dates that would have ended in dustbins – instead of homes that could still use them – and with no lose in respects and esteem of taking in bad and or expired food.

In one of the countries – they even give just average and good food to cater for different tastes and categories in people. Some of the people have lost their homes – and volunteers have offered them temporary homes and shelter. It is all so moving and touching – especially when you see the children tucking in with their parents eating together as a last touch of humanity, respect and dignity!

The shops and supermarket chains that are in these noble worthy causes are advertised – so those that are well-off and can afford it all should go for shopping to supplement and support the programmes. What is all touching is to find all kinds of people helping and volunteering in these programmes – from students to professionals – and even doctors and high echelon in the corporate world – from youngsters to even themselves oldish and sick too! They are all in these together as one – in joint mind and heart.

I thought to myself that these people can teach us a lot of things for some of us unmoved and uncaring lots! Especially the rich well-off family run businesses. Though some of them still do – but not to the rate and levels that their grandparents did!

I remember a long time ago when I went to the show-room of one car agency and the man at the door gave me an envelope = thinking I was one of the poor people gathered there to collect. He was surprised when I returned it back – and told him that he got it all wrong – which he complimented that I looked all dressed up and dignified! But it was a great learning experience to me – because this old man – May Allah rest his soul in eternal peace – Amin – had his heart in the right place – in wanting to share his quick get riches with others lesser advantaged and poor.

The poor man insisted I take the envelope and give it to any poor man I knew! The money inside at that time was still significant. What touched me more was the envelope was all plain – and did not carry the company name – nor logo!

Last two years back I had gone to our poorer relatives still in Tanzania. There I opened my eyes to the artificial and hypocritical lives that we have here. It was lunch time – and there was extra food cooked in order for the others lesser-advantaged and more-poorer than them to come to eat. When I raised a voice as to why they were doing this – and when they themselves were in need – their shock, awe and disbelief was plainly visible for me to see ‘for even thinking’ like that! The part that really eats me out are the other Religions – non-Muslims – participating to help poor Muslims fast in this Holy Month!

You just have to go to the dustbins and see the food that is thrown away – and even the cats and dogs are choosy too which food – and from which house – to eat or ignore! I was always wondering why especially in the Holy Month the Baladiya trucks come in twice a day – instead of only once! And then we have homes that are looking for food – what food they can get and or afford – to break their fasts – but the real eye-opener and the most heart rendering and painful are the children that the poor things really are looking out for!

Some of us for sure can help out more than what we are doing now – not forgetting the maxim that do with the right hand – that even your left hand does not know about! I can share with you that when some of our relatives from abroad come to our homes to break the fast they are shocked to see so much food provided – especially when they see how many people are there in numbers vis-à-vis the found amount – quite high, unrepresentative and high!

Start by this. Send to your poorer or not well off neighbours, to the needy and even to the Masjids (mosques) at breakfast times. Only Allah God Knows your rewards.

I have this morbid fear that one day we will be hit hard by Allah’s anger and fury for the food wastages – and artificial and fake lives that we are living and leading – and the competition – and all the show offs that we practise and do now!

We surely can learn a lot from such others. Please think of the lesser advantaged starting around you, at the home villages – at poorer families abroad – and those in war-torn strife  areas like now in Syria, Iraq, Palestine, Somalia, Niger (drought) – and so many other Arab and Muslim countries – and even minority Muslims in other countries – and others even world-wide. Time to open our eyes to see, ears to hear – and our mouths to speak!

May Allah God Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen

Take Care!

By:

 Majid Al Suleimany

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Omanisation – The Missing Ingredients! By Raya Al Kharusi. 3

Omanisation – The Missing Ingredients

– By Raya Al Kharusi – Muscat Daily – July 17th 2012. 

 

Raya Al Kharusi

 For the last twelve months I have been holding my breath every time, I came across an article or letter on Omanisation. What is Omanisation and what are the objectives? To Omanise numerically is not the target. It has to be effective and enduring.

 The missing ingredients are two. First the attitude or lack of it from the Omani recruits and second the negative reception of non-Omanis in any organization when they have an Omani in their department. The Omanis must be committed, involved and not let any hostility de-motivate them. I am not just putting words on paper – I am doing so out of the long experience I have had in the human resources field with 20 years experience in the best non-government organization in Omani, namely P.D.O. 

I was part of the think-tank tasked to draw up policies, salaries, benefits etc for Omanis and third country Regionals. The aim being to attract, retain and develop Omanis to take over from expatriates. At the same time in the late 1970’s / 1980’s we did arrange with others Gulf Oil Companies to find jobs for those expatriates who were Omanized. Despite a very attractive package to motivate expatriates to train/develop Omanis within 6 months only one expatriate qualified for the package, (this package was 26 months salary.) This says a lot of how much negativity there is in this issue. 

I also worked for a short spell in one of the major local banks in their H.R. Dept headed by a third country national. I was shocked to see how much negativity and nit-picking there was against Omani staff with spying, rudeness and all means used to de-motivate them. Even when a group of students from S.Q.U.’s College of Commerce were taken as interns- no work was given that would develop their skills. Instead final year graduates were given letters to put in envelopes, shred papers or just left hanging around. I am not saying that this is widespread but is definitely prevalent in almost all private organizations where third country nationals are worried of losing their jobs. 

On the other hand we have Omanis who have no motivation, do not attend to their jobs, have no interest in development, are not committed and who think they cannot be fired. These are the Omanis who are giving disrepute to the process, who only think of the salary at the end of the month and who have no target or aim to be developed, promoted and get satisfaction of a job well done. An example of this is absenteeism of staff in supermarkets. This has led to complaints that Omanis (by inference all Omanis) are lazy and unreliable. Far from the truth it suits the expatriates to cast Omanis as such. 

I will not even delve into the major discrepancy between salaries, benefits and perks meted out to expatriates compared to Omanis who in many cases are even more highly qualified than the expatriates. Besides huge salaries, free accommodation with utilities paid for, fully comprehensive insurance, family passages and children education all add up to an immense inequality in the packages. Additionally, with the gloomy economic outlook in the West there is a tendency amongst Western supervisors to engage in alienating Omanis either by innuendos, negative appraisals and generally be hostile especially vis a vis Omanis, especially those who show potential, in order to ensure their continued employment here in Oman, and not have to risk the uncertainty of un-employment back in their countries. 

It must be borne in mind by all concerned in the job market that expatriates are here for a certain job, for a limited period but that Omanis are the future of Oman and every help on the way to achieving their potential and doing so objectively without feeling discriminated is the best way all round. On the job coaching- relevant courses, cordial working relationship and positive attitude will go a long way to a harmonious long term relationship well after the employment period. 

Omanisation is an honorable target, achievable and well worth fighting for. Omanis: tighten your belts and honour your country by honouring yourselves. The target is well within achievable reach and worth the world to struggle for. With dedication, motivation and long term development plans Omanis will be looking forward to go to work and achieve targets instead of hating being in their work places. His Majesty, may Allah protect him, has dedicated himself to Oman. The least Omanis should and must do is dedicate themselves to achieve the vision of a better future for our future generation. 

Realistic Omanisation involves more than just salary, training and development plans. Omanis must be encouraged and given long-term plans on how and when they are expected to achieve their full potential. In this way motivation and commitment as well as goal and result-oriented Omanis will be able to achieve Omanisation.

By Raya Al Kharusi.

Raya is a Mother, GrandMother, World Affairs Spectator and Human Resources Expert, Advisor, Professional and Consultant – with over 20 years in all HR Jobs in PDO. She has a Master of Arts degree from The School of Oriental and African Studies at the University of London 1971.

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We Need To Be Serious! – By Majid Al Suleimany Reply

Between Us Only! 

We Need To Be Serious!

REPEAT ARTICLE FROM ONE YEAR AGO!!

Practising more of what is being preached and in reality!

 Thr difference between rhetoric and reality!

In my article last week I had said – What shocked me the most is these elements of wanting to control, dominate and subjugate in the old days methodologies – and in the old guards doctrines – from the higher levels – even to a fellow educated, qualified and experienced fellow peer Omani!

But allowing flexibility and freedom to the expatriate clans – and not your own! Like I always say – Like that General shooting at one’s own troops metaphorically speaking here!

Coincidentally, after coming from a public place – very frustrated, disgruntled and unhappy – I then I found this article I wrote for my column over a year ago! I then asked myself – if anything positive and progressive has happened? You be the judge. The article was titled – We Need To Be Serious!

The article just said – The other day I had gone to this Medical Centre in Town. As I entered the place there was this Western lady who was at the Reception Desk. She was wearing a white nurse dress – so I presume she was a real nurse acting out the duties and function as The Receptionist cum Administrator at the counter.

She was trying hard to be friendly – and you could tell it was all an act and charade – until she realized that we spoke Queens English to be more receptive! Or perhaps the place encourages only the Rich and Famous Omanis – not like us!

I was wondering to myself whether she was really doing the job as such full time – or would not surprise me being just off Eid – if there was an Omani boy or girl doing the ‘real’ job – but as usual – and not surprising again – the fear of the rain and the Wadis – or just Shuwa and Mishkaak (Meat Meals!) at the home village had decided not to turn up – like the rest of the Private Sector did!

It then dawned to me that if she (Receptionist) was really doing this job full time – then she must have come in on a Labour Clearance and Visa of a Nurse (or even Doctor – nothing is surprising anymore to me now!). And that must be a very expensive exercise for the establishment – and needed to be done anyway because she came with the ‘investment package’ from home – or through other connections, contacts and reasons.

If that was the case, for sure this job (like many others too!) could easily have been done by a local – given the right touch, encouragement, push, mentoring, guidance and coaching! But then who really cares? If you can circumvent the rules and regulations for your benefit – and the others are looking the other way – why not I ask you? Not only in that place but in so many other places too in Town! We Need To Be Serious!

But if even more senior jobs ‘reserved only for Omanis’ like Admin, PRO, Secretaries and Human Resources Managers are being done now openly by expatriates under fanciful names – why not? Incidentally and coincidentally if you go to the Professional Sites liked LinkedIn, you will see them brave enough to call themselves as just plain HR Managers – and nothing to be scared or to be afraid about!

Frankly too – and the other side of the coin – if you as a local and are not really serious about your job aspects, accountabilities and responsibilities – and give them an excuse to bring in a friend or contact from home – or is already here looking for a job or something better – whom do you blame – them or just plain you?

After all they have come here to invest with Returns (Profits) On Investments – ROI! And if the office atmosphere can be cheered the more by having home faces – or more friendlier faces – why not!

If the excuse was that she was acting because it being Thursday and the Youth insist on a five-day week as per the new regulations– the two days off could be made on shift-basis – and recruiting more Omanis for the position. This instead of wanting to give bad name to Omanis as being ‘not cooperative – even with overtime offers’ – instead of these short cuts!

The same story starts to repeat itself with the introduction of the basic minimum salaries – and what followed next! Here we go again! There is something that I must also say and repeat here for the benefits of everyone – and I hope common sense, dynamism, realism, pragmatism and vision will come in!

First and foremost – there is no more this element of fear still running or even scantily – and secondly everybody is just fed up to the tilt! The element of being afraid is now well a thing of the past!

And if you still think that the old games and gimmicks will still work in winning always – you have got it all wrong – and are just deluding no one but yourself only – and those near you! In desperation and last attempt and effort – last week I had written in the same column – Let The Strong Man Win!

Please do not tempt to scare me anymore now – because in the end we will all lose – some even sooner than the others! Perhaps I think I may need to start to think to quit now writing anymore for ever – because I always get hurt and pained in the end – and I end with a bloodied face – and swollen head banging it against brick walls!

Added  Comments – I feel sometimes like just giving up – and just let whatever is designated to come just pass – because we are still not hearing people speaking to us – and or seeing the things they are saying to us – and not even allowing them to talk to us now! When will we ever learn? Until it is too late – for everyone?

Take Care! 

By: 

Majid Al Suleimany

I am so angry and not puting in any images 😦 !!!

The Things of The Past – Learning To Let Go! Reply

The Things of the Past – Learning To Let Go!

By Majid Al Suleimany – June 18, 2012
■Forget about the people in your past – They didn’t make it to your future
■ We never stand taller than we stoop down to help someone who had fallen
■ Falling down is not a defeat – defeat is when you refuse to get up!
■ All from A Bouquet of Quotes.

Go placidly amidst the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence – Desiderata Card – 1692!

Normally, I write my thoughts and feelings in my columns for all to see. But lately I have come to Writers’ Block – because I see myself repeating on articles the subjects and topics that I have been writing on for the past nine years in my three columns – 2 in The Oman Daily Observer and the other one at Knowledge Oasis Muscat KOM – under The Society Speaks! All the articles are reproduced at my http://www.majidall.com and also at http://www.majidsn.com The books at http://www.myown-ebooks.com – and my controlling new website at http://www.majidalsuleimany.com

Today, I have taken a bold decision to start writing on my thoughts, views and outlooks in this website of mine – http://www.majidsn.com I will explain why.

First of all these are my most innermost sensitive thoughts and I have a feeling that they may not be published by The Oman Daily Observer – which we all know is a Governmental and newspaper of the state apparatus. And even if they may publish – I feel the subject may sound repetitive, boring and mundane if I just light touch on the subject and topic – without going into deep critical self analysis and soul searching methodologies and perspectives.

The second important point to mention here is that this week I have been going into my stored personal and ex consultancy boxes and cartons – because I am planning to make a store – and to keep only relevant and really needed stuff – and throw away the rest. You can call me a ‘hoarder’ – because I never throw away things – even if the material and stuff are no longer pertinent and relevant anymore – but just junk stuff occupying valuable space – and time, money and efforts too!

You will not believe this but I have all my personal and private correspondences since 1973 – that is over 40 years ago. That includes all stuff like my first job offer letter, staff reports, official correspondences and the like. A big chunk are my closed down MMDC Consultancy correspondences – a sort of déjà vu thing in remembrances – some happy – but many sad and heart paining still to this day.

In one of the Personal Files I find a very nasty letter from my boss’s boss – and rereading it now I can tell that it was a vicious vindictive plan to ‘get me fired’ – and the home work and the ground works were being prepared to do this.

The reason it being difficult at that time Omanis – especially if he or she has been working with you for some time – and there is no question on his performance and application to work, duties and responsibilities per se. But it is the other issues non-work related that has pissed you off – like his approaches, focuses and attitudes! Like he ‘has chips on his shoulders’ – and the other things like ‘stop his personal pride’ when dealing with bosses he thinks are below his estimation and calbre – and accept formality – even if his boss now used to be his assistant and or peer before!

Frankly, there were great disputes in these allegations – because they are all haphazard, vindictive and subjective. I have never challenged ‘formality’ except in bringing forward proactively my areas of concerns and worries – and where we are heading (into troubled waters!). I have always respected formality. Besides, who am I to challenge Allah God – because He is the One that Giveth – and Taketh.

If Allah has decided not to give me – who else will. Besides, as a human being I may be jealous and envious – but overall I consider myself as a decent, honest, sincere and genuine person – with the REAL and TRUE loyalties – because only a person who really cares and feels for you – will tell you the honest truth – however ugly and painful it can be – and you do not want to hear it too! Only dead fish go with the tide – and do not want to ‘rock the boat’ syndromes!

But it convinced me then to look for alternative employment. My British Unit B Director – Late Dudley Parkinson – Peace be upon him – was able to get me a lateral transfer to Oman LNG – but my direct Omani Director – wrote the following words – after me being accepted in a letter by Oman LNG then – I do not know anything about this. Please ignore this letter..sic!

The truth being that you do not want to progress and or promote me – but you are still blocking me to move to other arenas. How vicious and vindictive one can get in life – in treating others like this.

I do not want to repeat things that I have already said before – because it is of no use. There is still blockages of people hearing, seeing or speaking. I wished people has listened to me. But what is the use now? There is no softer pillow than a clear conscience.

My books – especially the Arab Management books – http://www.myown-ebooks.com – and the other three books – Between Us Only series – also at http://www.majidbooks.com are all testimony of the things that I have said and cautioned about.

At risk of all things – definitely my own career and progression. Even on leaving on Early Retirement – I was not spared. See my article As To Why I Left My Last Oil Company in any of my websites – Pages and or Posts – Or here – http://majidall.com/as-to-why-i-had-left-my-last-oil-company-loc/ See also this one –

We do not know how long we are going to live on in this world – but I am drawn to my article also here – http://majidall.com/?s=the+closing+chapter

It is time to finally close all the past the chapters in my life now – and remove the skeletons from my closets – because my work is now done!

Besides, I am dead tired saying it again and again – I TOLD YOU SO!!!

May Allah God Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen.

Take Care!

Best Wishes and Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

Muscat – Sultanate of Oman – June 18th 2012

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It Is All About My Books!

It Is All About My Columns and Writings!
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The Concept of Writing! – By Majid Al Suleimany. Reply

Between Us Only! – Outlook! 

The Concept of Writing!

  • The ink of the Scholar is more holy than the blood of the martyrThe Hadith (Islamic Sayings).
  • The only reason for being a writer is that you can’t help it!Leo Rosten
  • A metaphor is like a simile!Anon
  • Be obscure clearly! – E.B. White

Between Us Only! – I was reading this article about Ubuntu Philosophy – and I thought it would make a good topic for my article in this column.

First of al, there is need to say something here. We may be that lucky and endowed with the greatest of knowledge, culture, heritage, customs, history, customs, wisdom and civilization – but the question to ask here frankly and in deep self analysis and conscience – are we practicing them? There is a lot of preaching and publicity – but no real practice in our lives’ dealings, interfaces and relationships! This is the sad and bitter truth – whether we like to accept it or not.

Just watch the news. It becomes a real embarrassment to see we can do these things to one other – devoid of our own Religion and its teachings. The time to hold our heads high with pride, esteem and acknowledgement is all gone – though pretenses, facades and acting have remained dominant and supreme. It is like marching one step ahead – and then back two steps behind!

The point I want to make here is that we can all learn from others and in humanity – and there is no culture or civilization that is inferior – especially if those people do and actually practice what their sayings and writings are all about. We need to hold our heads down in shame – and in learning!

A       Ubuntu Philosophy

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ubuntu_(philosophy)

An anthropologist studying the habits and customs of an African tribe found himself surrounded by children most days. So he decided to play a little game with them. He managed to get candies from the nearest town, and put it all in a decorated basket at the foot of a tree. Then he called the children and suggested they play a game.

When the anthropologist said “Now!” the children had to run to the tree, and the first one to get there could have ALL the candies to himself/herself. So the children all lined up waiting for the signal.

When the anthropologist said “Now!” – All the children held each others’ hand and ran together towards the tree. They all arrived at the same time, divided up the candies, sat down, and began to happily munch away.

Images Ubuntu – For Demonstration Purposes Only! 

The anthropologist went over to them and asked why they had all run together, when any one of them could have had the candies all to himself/herself.

The children responded: “Ubuntu”! How could any one of us be happy if all the others were sad?”

Ubuntu is a philosophy of some African tribes that can be summed up as “I am what I am because of who we all are” This can teach us all many things about life!

In the East African Swahili lingo – Uutu – Uutu bora kuliko Viitu. – Humanity is better than things (materialism and individualism)…

B       Saying It As It Is!

A long time ago when my Consultancy was dying a slow death – I went into the Public Forums – and in vain attempts and just like that drowning man catching the weed in trying to save oneself! Being M as I am – I used my real name – and not a pseudonym or Nome-de-plume thing! I was personally attacked – and on very sensitive and delicate issues concerning myself – and even my family. The people behind all these thought that they were very smart alecks – because they thought that they would never be found in this new technological savvy arena!

In the end I had given up and just left – and wrote what I wanted in my columns and in my books only. Actually, my thanks and gratitude are due to them – because that is how the concept of writing my books came into being!

I also strongly believe in these – and are my Motto in life now-

  •  Be who you are and say what you feel; because those who mind don’t matter; and those who matter, don’t mind! – Dr. Seuss – Writer, Cartoonist and Animator.
  • Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can – and the wisdom to know the difference between the two!  – Anon

I also strongly believe in this. Did you read the story of The Three Blind Men? Each one of the blind men was ‘correct in describing the elephant’ in his own way – but as The Rajah had said – The elephant is like the truth of all things and we are like the blind men!

Images 3 Blind Men & The Elephant Ubuntu – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

Despite well intentioned, goodwill and focus to represent or reflect on the issues and the situations – one has to be careful that you do not add any ‘fuel to a cinder fire’ sort of thing! To make a bad situation just even turn worse for that matter!

We do need the wisdom, pragmatism and dynamism to prevail and dominate always. And also being positive and realistic – that things have now changed – and still changing fast – and the old ways and methods of doing things are no longer applicable or appropriate anymore!

Allah The Lord Have the Mercy on all of us – and Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen.

Take Care! 

By: – 

Majid Al Suleimany

June 16th – Muscat – Sultanate of Oman.

The Doha Mall Fire! By Majid Al Suleimany Reply

For Sunday June 3rd 2012

Between Us Only! (Outlook)

The Doha Mall Disaster.

  • The ink of the Scholar is more holy than the blood of the martyrThe Hadith (Islamic Sayings).
  • Leave to themselves those who do not give any importance to the Divine – and have adopted and consider it as mere play and amusementThe Hadith.
  • That person will not enter Paradise who hath one atom of pride in his heart! – Again The Hadith.
  • Commonsense is not so common – Voltaire.
  • Words once printed, have a life of their own – Carol Burnett
  • Those that do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it – George Santayana
  • I’m dying – one of the three Filipino teachers trapped in the fire told her aunt in a text message – before she succumbed to her death.
  • The children are trapped, the smoke is too thick – Another Filipino teacher to her husband.

Below Images – Villaggio Mall – Doha Qatar.

Images – Tne Triplets that Perished in the fire – and their Parents (New Zealand)

I was reading this article about the fire that had broken out last Monday at the nursery school in the Qatari capital Doha in the city’s Villaggio Mall. In a press conference held in the city on Monday evening – the Qatar’s Government confirmed that 19 had perished: 13 children, four teachers and two civil defence workers. A further 17 people were injured in the fire – four of them children and a number of civil defence workers.

No explanation over how the fire had started has yet been provided. The victims included people from Spain, Japan, the Philippines, Benin and Arab countries – not including Qatar, the officials said.

Two-year old triplets from New Zealand – Lillie, Jackson and Willsher Weekes – have also been confirmed as being among those that were left dead after this huge fire at this shopping mall. “Lillie, Jackson and Willsher came into this world together and were inseparable as siblings, best friends and the joy of our life,” the heart-broken and the tragic couple said in a statement to the Press at the place – and to consoling friends.

More Images Below

Amongst the alleged lapses (1) Mall employees not acting fast enough when the fire erupted – (2) Fire alarms did not go off or rang faintly – (3) No emergency exists at place of fire – (4) No drawings available – (5) The kindergarten was not known to have existed nor was legally sanctioned to be in this mall – (6) Some of the sprinklers in the mall malfunctioned and fire exit doors were locked – and several others.

It is definitely a great tragedy and one can but just imagine the terrible grief and agony that their parents – and the other victims’ families – are facing now – when such young innocent lives are swept away and lost in this way.

About two years back, I was going to this Mall to check on if any of my books were sold still yet at this shopping mall in town. I had written an article about this – because I forgot where I had parked my car. The Omani young boy and girl had really helped me out to locate the car – after pointing it out to them in the security cameras.

It was then easy for them to give me a lift in their car trolley to my parked car. What really impressed me the most was first for them to identify myself as the real owner of the car – and seeing all these cameras watching all the scenes going on – which I would assume there were no blind corners or invisible places not covered by the cameras! It was a great wake-up call for me on the realities and practicalities of life. Sometimes in life we think we know everything – and no one can fool us – but there is still out there far much to learn still – and catch up!

Zakheir Mall Oman Images Below

In the week before that we had the incident at Zakher Mall too in town. We see every day about places that have mysteriously have caught fires – and the usual culprit is blamed to be an electric short circuit. Like in many people – I used to be sarcastic and cynical on this – until I saw it live – at one of the places I used to work when the ceiling lights caught fire – presumably because they have been kept on running for too long – day in and day out.

Like we the Arabs like to say also always in this thing – from the stomach of evil came blessings – and that is how my last Arab Management book – A Cry For Help! – came into being – www.myown-ebooks.com. It was another wake-up call for me on human foibles, vanity and weaknesses – vileness, deceit and betrayals – and truthfully nothing more surprised me any more – even the ominous and sort of prophesied in the book one year later – the Arab Spring Uprisings – and thus the title of the book in a cry for help!

It is well understandable that some maybe asking at this particular juncture where is the relationship and the correlation between a mall fire and my books – and perhaps am just finding excuses to propagate and push my books at any possibility? Let me connect the dots and in explaining myself here – if you will give me the chance to do so!

The question that I need to pose here is this. Why do we take things for granted and for surety that nothing can or may happen – until it really does happen – and it does – and again we are caught surprised and unawares – again and again – and all go into fire-fighting and reactive mode? What is this curse on us now? Instead of being pragmatic and active – and as we all know prevention is far better than cure – and if even the cure will work – and if not too late already – or the damage and repercussions have already taken place?

How many times people have written about employees being unhappy at the workplaces? How many times people have written – and spoken too – about how we carry our young children to schools – and how they are being treated in schools too? Accidents about to happen – as the headings go! Even the nurseries and the kindergarten are not spared even! Even live photos and videos are shown – yet we do not still see! It goes in to one ear and out from the other! Till something dastardly and big happens – and the learning curve is again short lived. Till the next time!

There are same or similar situations existing in the Private Schools – and perhaps even in the public schools – and possibly in our own malls too. There are private schools in residential areas – and near homes of residences of people – exposing them to great risks and dangers!

Please forgive me because I am not an Engineer – nor an Architecture or HSE expert or advisor. All I know is writing job descriptions and human resources policies and procedures books. And columns and books – more as a hobby, interest and passion. I did not even attend book-writing or journalist courses – so even in that I just stumbled into writing – and cannot in the real sense of the world put claims to be an expert either!

But let us use some of the faculties given to us by The Lord – our common senses, brains, judgments, analysis and evaluations – our own consciences – of what is right or wrong – our intuitions and perceptions – and whatever else! Till a tragedy or happening will occur than reactively – after the event and in fire fighting – We are all then only propelled into action and dynamism.! When will we ake up – and learn – before it is too late for all of us???

I personally think it is this fatalistic and do-not-care-a-damn – and do-not-want-to-hear-anything-from-anyone – and also this let-them-wait-and-suffer traits in all of us that is as the main cause of all the problems facing us now and with us – and will be far more with us – if we still continue in these ways and behaviours.

I also hold this my strong view that many of our problems today arise mainly from the ‘poor type and weak personality behaviours and characters people’ – that are in their positions now – not because they are good, competent and capable – but are there merely more to ‘follow the line – not to rock the boat’ syndrome. They are there just to ensure to ‘keep the lid on’ – ‘just stays on’. They come with ‘killer instincts’ survival – like the sharks – that will attack anything coming near them – even their own – and even if not an adversary or enemy for that matter! Even that person who just wants to say Hello to him!

Lord Have the mercy on all of us – and Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen.

Take Care!

By: –

Majid Al Suleimany