The Things of The Past – Learning To Let Go! Reply

The Things of the Past – Learning To Let Go!

By Majid Al Suleimany – June 18, 2012
■Forget about the people in your past – They didn’t make it to your future
■ We never stand taller than we stoop down to help someone who had fallen
■ Falling down is not a defeat – defeat is when you refuse to get up!
■ All from A Bouquet of Quotes.

Go placidly amidst the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence – Desiderata Card – 1692!

Normally, I write my thoughts and feelings in my columns for all to see. But lately I have come to Writers’ Block – because I see myself repeating on articles the subjects and topics that I have been writing on for the past nine years in my three columns – 2 in The Oman Daily Observer and the other one at Knowledge Oasis Muscat KOM – under The Society Speaks! All the articles are reproduced at my http://www.majidall.com and also at http://www.majidsn.com The books at http://www.myown-ebooks.com – and my controlling new website at http://www.majidalsuleimany.com

Today, I have taken a bold decision to start writing on my thoughts, views and outlooks in this website of mine – http://www.majidsn.com I will explain why.

First of all these are my most innermost sensitive thoughts and I have a feeling that they may not be published by The Oman Daily Observer – which we all know is a Governmental and newspaper of the state apparatus. And even if they may publish – I feel the subject may sound repetitive, boring and mundane if I just light touch on the subject and topic – without going into deep critical self analysis and soul searching methodologies and perspectives.

The second important point to mention here is that this week I have been going into my stored personal and ex consultancy boxes and cartons – because I am planning to make a store – and to keep only relevant and really needed stuff – and throw away the rest. You can call me a ‘hoarder’ – because I never throw away things – even if the material and stuff are no longer pertinent and relevant anymore – but just junk stuff occupying valuable space – and time, money and efforts too!

You will not believe this but I have all my personal and private correspondences since 1973 – that is over 40 years ago. That includes all stuff like my first job offer letter, staff reports, official correspondences and the like. A big chunk are my closed down MMDC Consultancy correspondences – a sort of déjà vu thing in remembrances – some happy – but many sad and heart paining still to this day.

In one of the Personal Files I find a very nasty letter from my boss’s boss – and rereading it now I can tell that it was a vicious vindictive plan to ‘get me fired’ – and the home work and the ground works were being prepared to do this.

The reason it being difficult at that time Omanis – especially if he or she has been working with you for some time – and there is no question on his performance and application to work, duties and responsibilities per se. But it is the other issues non-work related that has pissed you off – like his approaches, focuses and attitudes! Like he ‘has chips on his shoulders’ – and the other things like ‘stop his personal pride’ when dealing with bosses he thinks are below his estimation and calbre – and accept formality – even if his boss now used to be his assistant and or peer before!

Frankly, there were great disputes in these allegations – because they are all haphazard, vindictive and subjective. I have never challenged ‘formality’ except in bringing forward proactively my areas of concerns and worries – and where we are heading (into troubled waters!). I have always respected formality. Besides, who am I to challenge Allah God – because He is the One that Giveth – and Taketh.

If Allah has decided not to give me – who else will. Besides, as a human being I may be jealous and envious – but overall I consider myself as a decent, honest, sincere and genuine person – with the REAL and TRUE loyalties – because only a person who really cares and feels for you – will tell you the honest truth – however ugly and painful it can be – and you do not want to hear it too! Only dead fish go with the tide – and do not want to ‘rock the boat’ syndromes!

But it convinced me then to look for alternative employment. My British Unit B Director – Late Dudley Parkinson – Peace be upon him – was able to get me a lateral transfer to Oman LNG – but my direct Omani Director – wrote the following words – after me being accepted in a letter by Oman LNG then – I do not know anything about this. Please ignore this letter..sic!

The truth being that you do not want to progress and or promote me – but you are still blocking me to move to other arenas. How vicious and vindictive one can get in life – in treating others like this.

I do not want to repeat things that I have already said before – because it is of no use. There is still blockages of people hearing, seeing or speaking. I wished people has listened to me. But what is the use now? There is no softer pillow than a clear conscience.

My books – especially the Arab Management books – http://www.myown-ebooks.com – and the other three books – Between Us Only series – also at http://www.majidbooks.com are all testimony of the things that I have said and cautioned about.

At risk of all things – definitely my own career and progression. Even on leaving on Early Retirement – I was not spared. See my article As To Why I Left My Last Oil Company in any of my websites – Pages and or Posts – Or here – http://majidall.com/as-to-why-i-had-left-my-last-oil-company-loc/ See also this one –

We do not know how long we are going to live on in this world – but I am drawn to my article also here – http://majidall.com/?s=the+closing+chapter

It is time to finally close all the past the chapters in my life now – and remove the skeletons from my closets – because my work is now done!

Besides, I am dead tired saying it again and again – I TOLD YOU SO!!!

May Allah God Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen.

Take Care!

Best Wishes and Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

Muscat – Sultanate of Oman – June 18th 2012

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It Is All About Me!

This site comes after my first booksite – http://www.majidbooks.com and http://www.myown-ebooks.com

It Is All About My Books!

It Is All About My Columns and Writings!
http://www.majidall.comwww.majidsn.comEnjoy! Happy Surfing!Best Wishes and Regards,Majid Al Suleimany – Muscat – Sultanate of Oman – June 16th 2012

The Concept of Writing! – By Majid Al Suleimany. Reply

Between Us Only! – Outlook! 

The Concept of Writing!

  • The ink of the Scholar is more holy than the blood of the martyrThe Hadith (Islamic Sayings).
  • The only reason for being a writer is that you can’t help it!Leo Rosten
  • A metaphor is like a simile!Anon
  • Be obscure clearly! – E.B. White

Between Us Only! – I was reading this article about Ubuntu Philosophy – and I thought it would make a good topic for my article in this column.

First of al, there is need to say something here. We may be that lucky and endowed with the greatest of knowledge, culture, heritage, customs, history, customs, wisdom and civilization – but the question to ask here frankly and in deep self analysis and conscience – are we practicing them? There is a lot of preaching and publicity – but no real practice in our lives’ dealings, interfaces and relationships! This is the sad and bitter truth – whether we like to accept it or not.

Just watch the news. It becomes a real embarrassment to see we can do these things to one other – devoid of our own Religion and its teachings. The time to hold our heads high with pride, esteem and acknowledgement is all gone – though pretenses, facades and acting have remained dominant and supreme. It is like marching one step ahead – and then back two steps behind!

The point I want to make here is that we can all learn from others and in humanity – and there is no culture or civilization that is inferior – especially if those people do and actually practice what their sayings and writings are all about. We need to hold our heads down in shame – and in learning!

A       Ubuntu Philosophy

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ubuntu_(philosophy)

An anthropologist studying the habits and customs of an African tribe found himself surrounded by children most days. So he decided to play a little game with them. He managed to get candies from the nearest town, and put it all in a decorated basket at the foot of a tree. Then he called the children and suggested they play a game.

When the anthropologist said “Now!” the children had to run to the tree, and the first one to get there could have ALL the candies to himself/herself. So the children all lined up waiting for the signal.

When the anthropologist said “Now!” – All the children held each others’ hand and ran together towards the tree. They all arrived at the same time, divided up the candies, sat down, and began to happily munch away.

Images Ubuntu – For Demonstration Purposes Only! 

The anthropologist went over to them and asked why they had all run together, when any one of them could have had the candies all to himself/herself.

The children responded: “Ubuntu”! How could any one of us be happy if all the others were sad?”

Ubuntu is a philosophy of some African tribes that can be summed up as “I am what I am because of who we all are” This can teach us all many things about life!

In the East African Swahili lingo – Uutu – Uutu bora kuliko Viitu. – Humanity is better than things (materialism and individualism)…

B       Saying It As It Is!

A long time ago when my Consultancy was dying a slow death – I went into the Public Forums – and in vain attempts and just like that drowning man catching the weed in trying to save oneself! Being M as I am – I used my real name – and not a pseudonym or Nome-de-plume thing! I was personally attacked – and on very sensitive and delicate issues concerning myself – and even my family. The people behind all these thought that they were very smart alecks – because they thought that they would never be found in this new technological savvy arena!

In the end I had given up and just left – and wrote what I wanted in my columns and in my books only. Actually, my thanks and gratitude are due to them – because that is how the concept of writing my books came into being!

I also strongly believe in these – and are my Motto in life now-

  •  Be who you are and say what you feel; because those who mind don’t matter; and those who matter, don’t mind! – Dr. Seuss – Writer, Cartoonist and Animator.
  • Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can – and the wisdom to know the difference between the two!  – Anon

I also strongly believe in this. Did you read the story of The Three Blind Men? Each one of the blind men was ‘correct in describing the elephant’ in his own way – but as The Rajah had said – The elephant is like the truth of all things and we are like the blind men!

Images 3 Blind Men & The Elephant Ubuntu – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

Despite well intentioned, goodwill and focus to represent or reflect on the issues and the situations – one has to be careful that you do not add any ‘fuel to a cinder fire’ sort of thing! To make a bad situation just even turn worse for that matter!

We do need the wisdom, pragmatism and dynamism to prevail and dominate always. And also being positive and realistic – that things have now changed – and still changing fast – and the old ways and methods of doing things are no longer applicable or appropriate anymore!

Allah The Lord Have the Mercy on all of us – and Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen.

Take Care! 

By: – 

Majid Al Suleimany

June 16th – Muscat – Sultanate of Oman.

The Doha Mall Fire! By Majid Al Suleimany Reply

For Sunday June 3rd 2012

Between Us Only! (Outlook)

The Doha Mall Disaster.

  • The ink of the Scholar is more holy than the blood of the martyrThe Hadith (Islamic Sayings).
  • Leave to themselves those who do not give any importance to the Divine – and have adopted and consider it as mere play and amusementThe Hadith.
  • That person will not enter Paradise who hath one atom of pride in his heart! – Again The Hadith.
  • Commonsense is not so common – Voltaire.
  • Words once printed, have a life of their own – Carol Burnett
  • Those that do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it – George Santayana
  • I’m dying – one of the three Filipino teachers trapped in the fire told her aunt in a text message – before she succumbed to her death.
  • The children are trapped, the smoke is too thick – Another Filipino teacher to her husband.

Below Images – Villaggio Mall – Doha Qatar.

Images – Tne Triplets that Perished in the fire – and their Parents (New Zealand)

I was reading this article about the fire that had broken out last Monday at the nursery school in the Qatari capital Doha in the city’s Villaggio Mall. In a press conference held in the city on Monday evening – the Qatar’s Government confirmed that 19 had perished: 13 children, four teachers and two civil defence workers. A further 17 people were injured in the fire – four of them children and a number of civil defence workers.

No explanation over how the fire had started has yet been provided. The victims included people from Spain, Japan, the Philippines, Benin and Arab countries – not including Qatar, the officials said.

Two-year old triplets from New Zealand – Lillie, Jackson and Willsher Weekes – have also been confirmed as being among those that were left dead after this huge fire at this shopping mall. “Lillie, Jackson and Willsher came into this world together and were inseparable as siblings, best friends and the joy of our life,” the heart-broken and the tragic couple said in a statement to the Press at the place – and to consoling friends.

More Images Below

Amongst the alleged lapses (1) Mall employees not acting fast enough when the fire erupted – (2) Fire alarms did not go off or rang faintly – (3) No emergency exists at place of fire – (4) No drawings available – (5) The kindergarten was not known to have existed nor was legally sanctioned to be in this mall – (6) Some of the sprinklers in the mall malfunctioned and fire exit doors were locked – and several others.

It is definitely a great tragedy and one can but just imagine the terrible grief and agony that their parents – and the other victims’ families – are facing now – when such young innocent lives are swept away and lost in this way.

About two years back, I was going to this Mall to check on if any of my books were sold still yet at this shopping mall in town. I had written an article about this – because I forgot where I had parked my car. The Omani young boy and girl had really helped me out to locate the car – after pointing it out to them in the security cameras.

It was then easy for them to give me a lift in their car trolley to my parked car. What really impressed me the most was first for them to identify myself as the real owner of the car – and seeing all these cameras watching all the scenes going on – which I would assume there were no blind corners or invisible places not covered by the cameras! It was a great wake-up call for me on the realities and practicalities of life. Sometimes in life we think we know everything – and no one can fool us – but there is still out there far much to learn still – and catch up!

Zakheir Mall Oman Images Below

In the week before that we had the incident at Zakher Mall too in town. We see every day about places that have mysteriously have caught fires – and the usual culprit is blamed to be an electric short circuit. Like in many people – I used to be sarcastic and cynical on this – until I saw it live – at one of the places I used to work when the ceiling lights caught fire – presumably because they have been kept on running for too long – day in and day out.

Like we the Arabs like to say also always in this thing – from the stomach of evil came blessings – and that is how my last Arab Management book – A Cry For Help! – came into being – www.myown-ebooks.com. It was another wake-up call for me on human foibles, vanity and weaknesses – vileness, deceit and betrayals – and truthfully nothing more surprised me any more – even the ominous and sort of prophesied in the book one year later – the Arab Spring Uprisings – and thus the title of the book in a cry for help!

It is well understandable that some maybe asking at this particular juncture where is the relationship and the correlation between a mall fire and my books – and perhaps am just finding excuses to propagate and push my books at any possibility? Let me connect the dots and in explaining myself here – if you will give me the chance to do so!

The question that I need to pose here is this. Why do we take things for granted and for surety that nothing can or may happen – until it really does happen – and it does – and again we are caught surprised and unawares – again and again – and all go into fire-fighting and reactive mode? What is this curse on us now? Instead of being pragmatic and active – and as we all know prevention is far better than cure – and if even the cure will work – and if not too late already – or the damage and repercussions have already taken place?

How many times people have written about employees being unhappy at the workplaces? How many times people have written – and spoken too – about how we carry our young children to schools – and how they are being treated in schools too? Accidents about to happen – as the headings go! Even the nurseries and the kindergarten are not spared even! Even live photos and videos are shown – yet we do not still see! It goes in to one ear and out from the other! Till something dastardly and big happens – and the learning curve is again short lived. Till the next time!

There are same or similar situations existing in the Private Schools – and perhaps even in the public schools – and possibly in our own malls too. There are private schools in residential areas – and near homes of residences of people – exposing them to great risks and dangers!

Please forgive me because I am not an Engineer – nor an Architecture or HSE expert or advisor. All I know is writing job descriptions and human resources policies and procedures books. And columns and books – more as a hobby, interest and passion. I did not even attend book-writing or journalist courses – so even in that I just stumbled into writing – and cannot in the real sense of the world put claims to be an expert either!

But let us use some of the faculties given to us by The Lord – our common senses, brains, judgments, analysis and evaluations – our own consciences – of what is right or wrong – our intuitions and perceptions – and whatever else! Till a tragedy or happening will occur than reactively – after the event and in fire fighting – We are all then only propelled into action and dynamism.! When will we ake up – and learn – before it is too late for all of us???

I personally think it is this fatalistic and do-not-care-a-damn – and do-not-want-to-hear-anything-from-anyone – and also this let-them-wait-and-suffer traits in all of us that is as the main cause of all the problems facing us now and with us – and will be far more with us – if we still continue in these ways and behaviours.

I also hold this my strong view that many of our problems today arise mainly from the ‘poor type and weak personality behaviours and characters people’ – that are in their positions now – not because they are good, competent and capable – but are there merely more to ‘follow the line – not to rock the boat’ syndrome. They are there just to ensure to ‘keep the lid on’ – ‘just stays on’. They come with ‘killer instincts’ survival – like the sharks – that will attack anything coming near them – even their own – and even if not an adversary or enemy for that matter! Even that person who just wants to say Hello to him!

Lord Have the mercy on all of us – and Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen.

Take Care!

By: –

Majid Al Suleimany

Good News – on My Books! Reply

Good News – on My Books!

My Arab Management books are now in eBooks!

May 23, 2012

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My Books in Arab Management are now in eBooks format! See below letter from The Publishers Trafford in USA. The book also A Cry For Help! had been converted last month to eBooks.

I believe this is an achievement for an Omani Author, Writer and Columnist to have his books in Arab Management (in English) recognised and established due to the books demand worldwide. Please note that Trafford Publishing USA had converted the books free for this Author due to many requests worldwide.

Books Images

This Psychology book is sold out in Oman bookshops. Sadly they will not order directly and want me to order the books for them! And I am just broke…!

And that is the Oman (Arab) tragedy for all openly to see! I can see similar lack of support for my next book in Road Safety book novel type – see posting here.

Will we ever change? I do not think so! If I was an expatriate and wrote about Omani Castles and or Butterflies – all of us will come forward to help – especially if it is a HER!

Allah Kareem. God Is Great. Amin. Amen.

Subject: eBook Conversion Post Fulfillment for PID_165228
To: <majidalsuleimanybooks@gmail.com>

THE EMAIL – as below: –

Dear Majid Al Suleimany,

Good day!

We are glad to inform you that your Book, Psychology of Arab Management Thinking, has been successfully converted to a new eBook file format. This new eBook version, called EPUB, is quickly becoming the new standard for the eBook industry. The new eBook file does not affect any previous eBook versions you may have for this book. Trafford has submitted the new eBook file to our partner eBook vendors to increase the overall distribution of your book. Your new eBook will appear on each vendor’s website after each company has had a chance to review and process the file. Please note we cannot guarantee your eBook will be accepted by every vendor.

We will do our best to get your book included on as many sites as possible including future partnerships we are or will be working on. If you are curious to know which eBook vendors are carrying your new eBook file, we encourage you to search online using an online search engine. The results there will show you which vendors are currently carrying your title.

Should you have questions about the conversion of your title to an eBook, please email us at ebookservice@authorsolutions.com.

Thanks,

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1663 Liberty Drive

Bloomington, IN 47403

www.trafford.com

From the Publishers Trafford in USA!

So was A Cry For Help! similarly done last month. See books images here…

 

 

Arab Management:Far Deeper In Troubled Waters! – New Arab Management Book – By Majid Al Suleimany Reply

 

 

We defend the things that we should attack – and attack the things that we should defend!– Majid Al Suleimany

Arab Management:Far Deeper In Troubled Waters! – New Arab Management Book – By Majid Al Suleimany

New Book 7th  – Arab Management – Book Three –

By Majid Al Suleimany

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Arab Management: Far Deeper In Troubled Waters!

The Book Theme:-

1                    A frank, honest, open and call-a-spade-a-spade no punch-spared, no barrels held stuff and no frills play book exposing

2                    Still the ever increasing lack of ethics, principles, professionalism and tolerance in the workplaces.

3                    With now ever more increased radicalisation, extremism and fundamentalising of the Offices environment and in similar to the overall similar fast changing facts of the ground in the region.

4                     A Tell All As It Is in outlooks, approaches and focuses still prevalent and dominant.

5                    It looks into the future in Prophecy and Prediction of what is expected and what is to come – immediately now, in the short term and in the future.

6                                            Others – Please see below

Addressing the increased extremism, fundamentalism, and still the ever increasing now lack of tolerance and forbearance in the Arab workforce, Author Majid Al Suleimany presents Arab Management: Far Deeper In Troubled Waters! Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Series.

 

In three parts, the book concentrates on the management styles and aspects of the companies located in the Arabian Gulf Cooperation Council that encompasses

Oman, UAE – United Arab Emirates, Qatar, Kuwait, Bahrain and Saudi Arabia.

 

In deep self-analysis and in consciousness, it critically looks into and assesses any changes in particular – if any – in Arab Management – post The Arab Spring Uprisings that shook the countries in the region post January 2011 – after the First Arab Spring Uprisings in Tunisia with the self immolation of Mohamed Buazizi in Tunisia.

 

The book critically reviews, analyses and discusses the:-

 

v  Changes in the Arab Management aspects (if any!) – post the Arab Spring Uprisings from January 2011 onwards.

v  The far more and ever increased and widening divide between The Old Guards and The New Younger Graduates Intakes and Generation

v  Lessons that have still not been learnt despite all the changes in the MENA Region in Arab Spring Uprisings.

v  Still the ever ‘Ostrich Head in the ground’ – ‘Hard of Hearing’ and Push The Dirt under the carpet’ Management approaches – especially from the local environments, focuses and outlooks!

v  The ever faster growing radicalization of the local staff – especially The Youth and in particular.

v  Still some misbehaving expatriates – and the old guards locals!

v  Unhappy, dissatisfied local staff

v  Still more poor treatment of staff, especially by some Expatriate Management

v  The ever more increasing extremism and fundamentalism in the offices

v  Other sensitive and related issues

 

In Arab Management: Far Deeper In Troubled Waters!  Majid Al Suleimany – an Arab Management Consultant, Advisor and Expert – focuses on what is particular about the type of Arab Management, its context and perspectives, and what is peculiar, special, or particular to that work in the context and in comparison to management styles of other nations.

 

Using personal experiences, examples, and illustrations, Al Suleimany exposes the new reality and truth and moves away from the trend and approach of hiding

exposes the new reality and truth – and moves away from the trend and approach of hiding issues and problems.

 

“It is a unique book, written in a unique style. It is a soul searching and critical evaluation of one’s own people in the field. He extols the culture and importance of work in his religion and the pitfalls and lackluster attitude of the Managers in position about the Principles and Process of Management.” – Editor Features, The Observer

 

“Someone must have the guts and courage to write about this growing danger and phenomena with us here now – before it is too late for everyone!” – American CEO

 

“The book is critical but objective—and portrays the Arab mind and focus in its proper perspectives.” – Senior Omani Public Official

 

“Your writing is quite exceptional, informative, and gripping.”

– Omani High Official

 

“There is a great need for improvements and achievements in this particular arena —your book has tried well to cover all these to a very successful extent.” – British CEO

 

“Part of the problem of Arab Management is the inherited autocratic society we live in, and confronted by new Management concepts and innovation believing in freedom of expression, empowerment, delegation, transparency, ethics and accountabilities – and the clash between the two.” – Indian CEO

 

“Despite everything that has happened so far since the troubles started last year – nothing has changed much at the workplaces – if not for the worse in divisions between locals and expatriates – and in rivalries, polarisation, jealousies, envies – and lack of ethics, transparencies and professionalism” – A VP HR (Omani).

 

Even after some Public Officials lost their jobs, nothing has changed much even in the Public Arena – Retired Public Official

 

And so many others.

 

This will be a Tell-All – at whatever repercussions and consequences. Enough is Enough! Things cannot be allowed to go on like this – too many lies and deceptions already!

 

I am looking for partial sponsorship, financial backing and support especially from those who can – and believe in me – and in this planned new book!

 

Allah God be with you all – Amin  Amen

 

 

Majid Al Suleimany

April 10, 2012

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The Road Safety Book – Novel Type – In Simple English. 3

April 5th 2012

 The Road Safety Book – Novel Type – In simple English.

 I am now writing my 6th book on Road Safety Stories.

 The Book Plan – To write Short Emotional Stories that have happened to people because of Road Accidents!

 The book will be a novice first time type ever written in Oman as in a reading novel type format – written in the simplest of English – as it is envisaged that many of the  Readers English is a second language (or third) after Arabic – and to make it easy for them to understand and comprehend – taking into account the importance of the subject to the increased number of road accidents and fatalities in Oman.

The New Book on Road Safety – Novel Type

 

IMAGES FOR DEMONSTRATION PURPOSES ONLY!

Writing has always been in my blood and my hobby and passion.

 Road Safety Article – 1990s

 I wrote this article for Times of Oman in May 1994 titled – Stray Thoughts on Oman Traffic – and reproduced by PDO Al Fahal Magazine June 11 1994 titled – Drive Safely for the Sake of Family and Loved Ones! – See appended below

 A         Peoples’ Stories – All True Cases.

.The story must be about road accidents and had happened in Oman mainly.

  •  To write about Road Traffic Accidents in a book format and using simple English language for all to understand and appreciate.
  •  To put catching titles per story such as :-
  •  Newly wedded died on road accident
  •  Mother is still grieving!
  • Grandmother left alone in the house!
  • Utility bill syndrome
  •  Full Family lost in the accident!
  • Bad timing to travel after midnight!
  • Wrong Job Relief causes agony!
  • Fast trip ended shortly!
  • No more singing in the rain!
  • Mother – Do Not Cry For Me!
  • You should have been firm with me Mum – now I am gone!
  • To make it interesting and true. And things that we have seen in reality happening in front of our very eyes.
  •  To give accident account, possible causes and lessons learnt.
  •  As the writer will have the full rights to lay out the story according to the flow of information
  • Ask people who have No Objections to write their own true stories with photos and blogs.
  • Include photos of as many car accidents and lessons to learn! Preferably in colour format.
  • We need to write this book in view of the high road fatalities and accidents – and starting with schools.
  • The idea can be expanded with a picturesque book for Primary Schools (Arabic also) in the future – but it will have to be in corporation with others (Arabic not that god for writing up!)

 Any others

 B         How The Idea Originated!

 It came some time back from an Omani General Manager  (and a very good personal friend!) and whose Executive Secretary and the whole family perished in a road accident two years ago!

 I knew the late girl well – see sample story appended.

 This idea was given to me also by a good Indian Fan of mine as something worthwhile to consider to do with my Writing Skills and Experiences and taking it up from the Five Books already published by me.

 See sample story here

C         Issues

 There are many issues to handle first – like people willing to talk first with you and their willing for their stories to be told? But with the right approach and tactics this can be approached in the right way for success.

 Otherwise we will not use names but create our own names, initial, nome-de-plumes and pseudonyms

 D         Summary

 The book can take off very well. I have a strong feeling on this one!

 To be published in Oman as we may ask sponsors also from others like PDO, ROP, Newspapers etc – but the lesser the better! I want to own full rights and in publishing too.

 I am looking for financial support and in monetary help and in financial more sponsorship.

 Also if you know of any stories as above to share with me and other Readers

 Or if people willing to come forward to share their own stories – as lessons for others to learn!

 Or any views or suggestions that you may possibly have.

 Let us not forget life is not permanent or forever – but we will be remembered for what we have done and contributed in this world SADAKA JARIYAH

E          My Column Writings

  • My Two Columns in The Oman Daily Observer
  • Between Us Only! – Every Sunday!
  • At My Workplace! – Every Wednesday!
  • Please see here at www.majidall.com
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 Majid Al Suleimany

  

APPENDICES

 1          Road Safety Article – 1990s

 

2          Sample Story – Continued


2          Sample Story – Continued

 

Rest in Peace – RAW!

Peace Be Upon Her!

In Remembrance – Feeling Very Sad Today!

Wednesday February 9th 2011.

She had the most beautiful, enchanting and blossoming smile that you ever saw in such a pretty girl like RAW!

 Always cheerful and helpful – people flocked in and out of her Office just to visit and talk to her! Always a kind word and gesture to everyone – if it was the last sandwich which she had to keep for herself – she would offer it to you and she would go without!

 The old man went up the stairs to the offices as he was afraid of using the lift! He was a very angry man – he had received a wrong electricity bill that went to over a Thousand Omani Rials! His electricity was also disconnected! He had travelled all the way to The Head Office from the Interior – because he did not receive any cheers from the Branch.

He was shouting and addressing me – I had come in temporarily as The HR Consultant! How can my bill be so high? Last time I paid was less than OMR 20 (US Dollars 60)? I live with my wife and my two sons only in the small house!

 Hearing the commotions, RAW stepped out from her Office. Abuuiiy! (Father!) Please come and sit down. She brought him water and coffee. Relaxed, the old man started crying! He was ashamed of himself – for shouting so loudly to so many others – and ‘making just a nuisance’ of himself! Do not cry Father she said to him. I will call the GM out of the meeting to see you just now!

 Do not worry – she assured him – I will take care of you! And she did…. the old man got his electricity bill cancelled and the electricity returned – and a company car to take him home to his village 250 kilometers away. RAW also gave him Company Complimentary gifts – that is RAW for you – always caring and feeling for others! As a Consultant even for me – this was a great learning experience in kindness, care, feelings and in humanity – all RAW!

 

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Wednesday February 9th 2011.

 I was calling this good friend of mine a CEO of a National Company – and he gave me the ‘shock of my life’ to tell me that his Executive Secretary – and a First Class High Profile lady in my books had died as another casualty figure (statistics) just recently – after asking him how she was and having not received any emails from her for quite a while. I had covered this poor lady in My Books as one great person who had always stood by me in offering me support, kind words and in encouragement in my books.

 I had never expected to cry again! For me I try best to hold back my tears very much. But failed miserably this time! I still fail whenever I remember her. This poor lady was amongst one of the ‘casualty figures and statistics’ that we read in the newspapers every day and week – without abating an eyelid – as the ‘usual stories’ we read in the newspapers. Or the usual pun – so what else is new?

 I also did read this article by one Omani Columnist in the other newspaper titled Killer roundabout’ rings alarm bells in Mahdahby Fahad Al Mukrashi. Every week we see also in the newspapers about road casualty figures in the newspapers – but as usual in the coming story we never imagine or visualize that it could be someone we know well or related to.

 It seemed that an Omani family of 5 adults and 5 children had decided to get into a saloon car and drive all the way to Abu Dhabi in UAE. They decided to have lunch there and then to return on the same day. At 21:30 hrs, the father of the family perhaps overlooked   the Mahdah round about and caught by surprise – he panicked and braked sharply – and the car rolled over several times. Six members of the family died immediately but the father escaped with minor injury because he was wearing a seat belt and was awake and alone behind the wheels.

This is one girl that I really liked and admired – and was always a great fan and supporter of me. She was always encouraging and supportive – of me personally – my books and my writings. The happiest time she was when I dedicated some of her comments in my books and giving her complimentary copies.

She was always sending me nice warm supportive messages – like cheering your day or to make you smile messages. These always used to cheer me a lot – especially when I was feeling down and sad. She was always beaming with smiles and kindness. Pretty smiles full of blossom and enlightenment!

Today I am crying again of the sad news and the gap in my life now. She was a great lady and I miss her terribly!

She had a great sense of humour and tease! Once I asked her if she was interested to get married or what – or why not still. With her usual sense of humour and wit she replied – They are waiting for me to get a higher salary first before they proposed to me! My salary is still small to them!

May Allah SWT Rest her angelic kind soul in eternal peace in this world and the eternal – and open the highest heavens for her – Amin.

Inshallah I will always pray for her so long as I will live – Amin.

By Majid Al Suleimany

 

Books by Majid Al Suleimany – The Omani Author, Writer, Columnist and Publisher. Reply

Books by Majid Al Suleimany – The Omani Author, Writer, Columnist and Publisher.

A The Arab Management Books (English)

www.majidbooks.com

www.mymajidbooks.wordpress.com

Please visit my above websites for books in Arab Management issues and aspects – and as written in English.

There are few books as such written in English and published by the Arab locals themselves – and in this style and format from a personal perspective – and in deep self conscience, criticism, analysis and review.

The First Book – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – was published in January 2009 Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Series.

The Second Book – A Cry For Help! – published in September 2009 – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Series.

A Cry For Help! sort of foretold and prophesied The Arab Awakening and Uprisings – by highlighting the issues and aspects that were also revealed by The Arab Youth cries and grievances – mainly centred on jobs, their outlooks, their participation – and need for involvement – and their future – and for their destiny and legacy.

Psychology book critically reviewed shortfalls and out comings in Arab Management – and ways and means to improve and in changes required to overcome – and to be seen as successful and in winning!

The books are written from a personal perspective and context covering the Author’s over 35 years as a Management and Human Resources Professional, Expert, Advisor and Advisor in Oman and GCC.

Books published in USA by Trafford – www.trafford.com

Both books available in eBooks format

B Between Us Only! Series Books.

You will also find Between Us Only! Series books from The Oman Daily Observer Columns for the last 11 years covering interesting wide varied and relevant subjects and topics – both local, Arab, GCC and International.

Books also in English.

Between Us Only! – The Sequel – Between Us Only! – and Short Takes – Between Us Only!

Books published in USA by Trafford – www.trafford.com

The First book was published in Oman. Short Takes have emotional short stories with pictures and caricatures.

C Books Ordering

See here also on how to order the books

In Oman books are available at Family Bookshop Medinat Al Qaboos and at WHSmith (The Wave).

In UAE at Magrudys and Jashanamal – by ordering only!

Best Wishes and Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

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My Highest Read and Rated Article For 2011! Job Creations! 4

My Highest Rated and Read Article in My Websites and in The Oman Daily Observer Columns For 2011.

Dear All & After Compliments;

This is the article – Jobs For The Youth. It got the highest hits and read in my www.majidall.com and reproduced in a number of places! More hits than any other article of mine – which I think is demonstrative of concerns and worries of many – both inside and outside Oman.

Congratulations to us all! Feel free to forward and or reproduce for the greater cause. Bottom line – it is JOBS and FOOD at the table that is the highest and most concern and worry to many people!!

 Wishing You All A Happy Peaceful Safe and Loving Caring New Year 2012 to you and to your families.

 Best Wishes and Regards,

 Majid Al Suleimany

 

The Article Reproduced Below:-

As had appeared in The Oman Daily Observer Features of Wednesday December 7, 2011

My Website – www.majidall.com

 At My Workplace!

Job Creations!

Jobs For The Youth!

Not everything that glitters is gold! – Anon

A few weeks back I had said in my article We Need To Be Serious! – Quote – If you can circumvent the rules and regulations for your benefit – and the others are looking the other way – why not I ask you? Not only in that place but in so many other places too in Town! We Need To Be Serious!

But if even more senior jobs ‘reserved only for Omanis’ like Admin, PRO, Secretaries and Human Resources Managers are being done now openly by expatriates under fanciful names – why not? Incidentally and coincidentally if you go to the Professional Sites liked LinkedIn, you will see them brave enough to call themselves as just plain HR Managers – and nothing to be scared or to be afraid about!

I continued – Quote – There is something that I must also say and repeat here for the benefits of everyone – and I hope common sense, dynamism, realism, pragmatism and vision will come in!

First and foremost – there is no more this element of fear still running or even scantily – and secondly everybody is just fed up to the tilt!

And if you still think that the old games and gimmicks will still work in winning always – you have got it all wrong – and are just deluding no one but yourself only – and those near you! In desperation and last attempt and effort – last week I had written in the same column – Let The Strong Man Win!

Please do not tempt to scare me anymore now – because in the end we will all lose – some even sooner than the others! Perhaps I think I may need to quit now writing anymore for ever – because I always get hurt and pained in the end – and I end with a bloodied face – and swollen head banging it against brick walls! – Unquote.

Today Monday December 5th 2011 I was really elated and overjoyed as a son of the land to read this in the news – Quote Majlis panel to study status of job-seekers. New opportunities to be found … More Omanis likely to get jobs … – Unquote

Creating jobs for especially The Youth is a global dilemma and issue – and we find so many countries involved in this regard – and even some leaders like USA Obama directly involved personally in this. We see issues and aspects all over the Western World now – and we in The Middle East and rest of the world are catching up too!

In all my articles I raise the same issues and points – again and again. I strongly believe in this! In an interview with Oman Economic Review dated January 2000 (11 years ago) I think I gave very good advices to the Nation on aspects of Training, Development and Omanisation – titled Mind Matters!. The article is also reproduced here in my website above. I really wished that people had paid attention – and the same things I repeat in my two Arab Management books – www.majidbooks.com

A person who really cares and feels for you will tell you the truth and facts only – even if you will be cross and angry with him! And you may want to punish and hurt him – just because of his caring, feeling and sincerity towards the causes at hand – and you especially! But my articles Let The Strong Man Win – We Need To Be Serious – This Is Goodbye – are all demonstrative and examples of me now wanting to give up talking any further – and to join the Silent Majority as we will watch things continue to unfold in front of very eyes!

One thing that needs to be said also here – Communications does not have to be in Arabic only to pass on the theme and the messages – because sometimes even signals and body signs can do the trick in communications per se!

We especially the Arabs have this big issue that needs resolving. Apart from the usual rivalries, jealousies, polarisation and wrong judgments and stereotyping others, we fail to see, hear or simply speak – even if we have live examples just happened in learning and in lessons giving! And like in our histories – ‘killing the messenger of bad news’! And the usual approaches of some thinking they have ‘more rights than others’!

The point also to be made here – just because a person speaks fluent that Arabic is not necessarily that a most smart and intelligent person – and to be labelled as a really caring and feeling person either – and can even be an adversary and an enemy! They can do the most damage as the Israeli Arabs – for example as was in the Israeli army! And those speaking to us in English are not necessarily the opposite – or everything negative – to be ignored – and not to be heard. Allah Is Great – our nation is blessed with various experts and talents – all local too!

We need to wake up from the deep slumber we are (conveniently) in – now – than ever before – and before it is too late for everyone! Oman is a multi-racial and multi-ethnic society just like USA is!

Our destiny, legacy and future depend on it – and history and future generations will judge us by our actions – and also inactions!

Take Care!

 By:

Majid Al Suleimany

Higher Education Versus Personal Behaviours! 1

Between Us Only!

 

Higher Education Versus Personal Behaviours!

 It Is Those That Are More Highly Educated That Unexpectedly Behave The Worst In Many Cases!

 

Honestly, some of my strongest adversaries were ‘those supposed to be highly educated and expected to behave also as appropriately’ – and perhaps it is the jealousy and envy thing that I dare want to join ‘their club’ – but I do not have the PhDs to go along like them! It makes all sorts to make this world – and if you want to maintain your sanity and faculties then you must just go along and take the bitter pill – and in many cases not sugared even!

 What do you say to a Doctor who has a heart made of rough stone? A Doctor that is so mean and cruel to levels unimaginable! Yet still dares to smile and show you a friendly face – whilst at the same time telling you bluntly so cutting and so painful things unimaginable to a patient or someone related to that patient? Like Your parent has to do this operation – but he will not survive the operation!

 If you insist for a percentage of success he says – I will give you zero percentage! If you ask for your options – he will tell you – Take your parent home – but he will die soon in a painful and tormenting way! Maybe this Doctor has seen so many deaths and injuries – and he feels having this stone heart is a good way of protecting himself – and how he deals with others – patients included!

Conversely, to my dying day I will always remember my First Class Lady Boss in Tanzania. She was of mixed blood – her mother was German and her father local. She was so educated professionally and with also 2 PhDs – but she behaved simply, quietly and approachably that you may be misled to believe that she was just a Secondary School leaver level. I mean in her behaviours and approaches – she never ventured out to show herself off – but was just simple and presentable in all aspects. Actually she felt embarrassed if you started questioning her about her education and attainments!

 

Then come to our own! Even the ladies too – can you imagine? Especially if she holds a position of power and authority – that seems to go more into her head! I had a boss (local) in one neighbouring country – she was divorced by two husbands – and her third marriage was on the rocks. She was a very pretty thing to look at – but not to be taken home – and be touched! Just like you see a scorpion in a glass box!

She treated all of us staff like scum and dirt – and her communications to us were mere shouts and screams! She could insult you anytime in front of your visitors, peers, customers, clients and even subordinates – the later which she liked to do more! She never kept her promises to you at all – and you never dared to remind her! She destroyed the career and lives of many by her cruelty and meanness – and some even mental and phsychological cases to this day! People like these when they meet a nasty end – there is simply no remorse or feelings from those she had insulted and pained before!

 Both the ladies were my bosses – but guess which one I am ready to return to anytime! I have so many more other examples of so-called ‘higher educated so disappointing and sad cases’ to give – with live examples and stories – but my column is limited by words. You can get all more information from my books – especially the two Arab Management books here and at www.majidbooks.com

 Yet our Great Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) was not that educated himself – and the Angel Gabriel had to ‘direct him to read!’ – And yet he was one of the greatest people and leaders in this world – and will remain so till the end of the world. He led by personal examples to be followed and to be emulated!

 Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2012! Take Care!

 By:

 Majid Al Suleimany

 

Things Have Turned Sour! Why Do We Do All These Things To Each Other Now?? 1

Why Do We Do All These Things To Each Other Now??

 Why Do We Do All These Things To Each Other Now??

I stopped smiling now!

Dear All;

People may say anything that they want about me – including that I am ‘eccentric. crazy or mad even’ – and that I get angry quickly even though I am diabetic and my Eye Doctor has warned me to ‘be extra careful’ because I am one of the few in millions that has pressures going to my eyes instead of my body. My left eye has left 55% vision left only and 65% of the right eye. When I am extra angry I even bleed from my eyes!

The point I want to make is this.

I have noticed that people have changed for the worse now! The situation has gone even worse then before! It has gone ……. bad!

There is too much meanness, viciousness, vindictiveness, divisions, bad hearts, polarisations, bad intentions and wills – and some think they are more important than others – and have more rights too! Despite all things we see in real life happening in front of our eyes – and not far from us either!

Frankly, I am not a vengeful and vindictive person – I think I am confident and convinced in saying this!

I respect and esteem everyone – whatever religion, race or creed – and I expect the same from everyone in turn. Bottom line I know I try best to be kind, nice and helpful – because I am afraid of My God – the Punishment of The Grave – and Eternal Hell Fire as a Believer! Even that ant you trample on viciously will have you punished in your grave and Day of Judgment – let alone doing it to a fellow human being – believer or not.

And as Muslims we believe Judaism and Christianity amongst the Believers – and Islam is the only Religion after Christianity that believes in Jesus Christ (Prophet Issa), Mother Miriam and the miracle birth!

I have been writing for the last 8 years – and on the same subjects and topics – and I keep writing – again and again! I am writing more as a hobby – something that I like to do! Nothing more or less! The money is peanuts – if and when it comes in!

The Romans had said – Those that the gods are out to destroy make them not see, hear or speak. Or as we Arabs say – There is no one so blind but with eyes but cannot see; no one so deaf but with ears but cannot hear; and no one so dumb but with a mouth but cannot speak!

Or as Napoleon had appropriately have said – Do not interfere with someone set to destroy himself (let it be syndrome).

Things I had said in 1980s came to pass – even in my working time and career too! I am tired of saying – I TOLD YOU SO! The same things that I have said in my articles from 2003 onwards – 8 years ago! Just imagine! I warned and cautioned on the cinder fires burning underneath – instead my books and me were targeted instead! Even the VIPs I sent my books did not have even the courtesy to acknowledge and thank me!

What are all these things for?

Anyway, I would like to thank all my fans and supporters from my heart with warmth, sincerity and genuine feelings and touch. And I ask your forgiveness for those who chose ‘not to be my friends’ – and those trying to get back at me – to shut me up and close my mouth!

Allah God Protect and Preserve us all from His Anger and Fury – Amin

Best Wishes and Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany