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Simply let no one meddle in your life – and with your wellbeing and happiness!

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A long time ago, I had a major operation at Royal Hospital in Oman. Perhaps it was the post operation tantrums – but I was crying profusely and uncontrollably! Then this nice Omani Lady Doctor came over to me and asked me what was the matter – and why I was crying after having a major operation? It was not safe nor good for you Ami (Uncle)!?

I told her it was already 5.30 pm and only half an hour left for visiting time and that morning at 10 a.m. I had this major operation. There was no one at my bedside – all alone! The Filipino Nurse was telling the Indian Nurse – Tell him in English! He is ‘fluent in English’ more! The Indian Nurse was urging me to ‘wake up and open your eyes Uncle’ in Arabic! After the effects of the operation’s anaesthesia!

The Nice Good Lady Doctor – who came later on to meet me again in another medical situation – Diabetic First Time Attack – told me these words – which will stick with me to my dying day to my grave – In Life First is – You Majid! – Second is – You Majid! Third is – You Majid! Only!

The Rest – Your Wife, Children, Family, Relatives and Friends etc. – They can form their own queue after this! Remember This Always! – she actually was crying with me! Incidentally, she was a Married Doctor – with some of you with ‘dirty minds’ – but she was a very caring and feeling doctor – on her rounds to visit me!

Like I always say in my columns and books – and even the recent new book – Speak The Truth Only! – www.createspace.com/5640529 – Family and Relatives – after the Offices Environments with Bosses and Colleagues Peers – are The Worst Places where people take you for granted – and for most trouble making mischief and problems making – even affecting one’s livelihood, commonality and happiness.

Take Care!

 

By

Majid Al Suleimany

August 1st 2015

 

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Never Ever Before Seen Forthrightness, Openness and Frankness In Writing! Reply

Never Ever Before Seen Forthrightness, Openness and Frankness In Writing!

 

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Two Samples of The Works!

M.04          Open Forums – Or Entrapments?

When I was working for this Oil Company at one time there was this Open Forum that anyone Staff – even Locals – could write to The Top Guys in Shell International in London and The Hague!

The Local Management were ‘encouraged’ to allow their people also to ‘contribute’. In hindsight, I think it was more an ‘An Entrapment’ to see who of the local guys more active and vocal – with ‘Yours Truly’ on board!

I used to raise many issues related to Omanisation (Localisation), Training and Development and Recruitment and Job Opportunities for The Omani Youth! This really incensed the Local Admin Director who kept on saying that as HR you are in Management and ‘supposed to defend ‘Management’!

I retorted that I was not ‘attacking any Management of any sort’ and that as HR was ‘The Conscience Keeper’ of The Establishment – and that ‘freedom of expression’ was guaranteed to us in ‘The Forums’ I had every right to participate!

This made him more mad by my obstinacy and vocalism! I knew I was not going to be promoted being under him anyway – or even get a higher bonus – so why the heck? Let me enjoy myself! They could not fire me anyway because the ‘Laws of The Country’ protected us (then!) and also I was doing my job quite well – with exceptional of this added irritant – especially to him!

Like many (Office) Dictators, he thought I was doing this especially as ‘I was planning to instigate an uprising to overthrow him! L L !

One day he came to my Office to try a different approach to say even if he wanted to promote me he could not – because of this element! As he ‘heard’ I was doing a good job otherwise!

Anyway, I stopped contributing when I heard people ‘outside the Offices’ talking about this – and when one in Nigeria wrote to me to put his case of Shell causing environmental disasters in Warri and The Nile Delta! I realized things were turning sour and deadly – and soon after Locals were ‘no longer allowed’ to participate due to ‘pressures beyond their control and coming from Outside The Company!

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 M.05          The British Police Officer (in Oman)!

He was not in a Police Vehicle but though Police Registered the Peugeot 504 – always white colour – and I was behind him in my Toyota Crown when he went through a No Entry sign near The Offices Bank in those days. He came across to me on the other side of the road – again crossing a No Entry Sign as he blocked me as I was coming in!

He was fuming mad – and breathing heavily? He asked me why did I blow my car horn at him? As he was in Police Uniform? I said meekly to him – because as a Police Officer you had violated Traffic Rules – and you should know better! Whilst all the time putting a ‘brave front’ whilst shaking all inside! He wanted my Driving License and my PDO card. I was at first reluctant – but then I gave him.

He told me he was a ‘Personal Friend’ of a Top Public Official (also British!) and he will tell the MD about me! He wrote down my full name – my Personnel Number – and my Department!

Later on the good MD called me in his Office for a private chat – his good advice to be careful because ‘these guys (then!) could have you arrested for several days – or weeks even – without taking you to Court – even if you were right! It is his words against your – and guess whom The Judge will believe! He said tome things of ‘reality’ which even today I will not be able to put down here! L !

I found it strange and odd when he (The Police Official) said to me – As Officers in case of Emergencies – we can break the Laws! I do not know if going to the Bank was an emergency – unless it was only for him! L!

 

 

Increasing Delinquencies Inefficiencies and Incompetencies! Reply

Increasing Delinquencies Inefficiencies and Incompetencies! 

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In some countries in Africa, you do not get anything done unless you give a bribe! Even a Salary Letter to the Bank – you have to bribe the Company HR and Finance – and even the Bank to receive the letter. The request for a present or bribe are not subtle and ‘not implied’ – but open, blunt and frank. These crooked officials would prefer even their planes where they are employed fly empty or half full – then give you a deserving ticket at market prices!

In my dealings lately with some officials in Private Companies (and even State of The Art National Prestigious ones!) I have noticed increasing delinquencies, inefficiencies and incompetences bordering one would imagine a bribe or present is in order for your work to be done. I do not go to Public Offices anymore -–I let my son do that for me now! Guess things there are even more unmentionable!

What is happening to us? Is it just envy, jealousy and ‘The Usual Haassiydyn’ that someone is getting something and as if that thing is coming direct from your own pocket – and not from the Company?

I am talking here of a Management Decision (usually Expatriate led or influenced!) of the Company buying some of my books – but The Omani Director and Manager pass the buck between himself (herself) and subordinates – and it is usually The CSR, HR, Procurement and Finance Departments playing the dirty ugly official games!

If you write to The Director he abruptly responds see below copied. And you call and call them – they do not respond – till you use an unfamiliar number (house Telephone or children housemaid gsms)…and the abrupt response is – we are working on it – you just have to wait! Angrily and Usually a young Omani boy or girl (The New Blood per se!) who forgets his upbringing, culture, heritage, values and customs to respect a Senior Omani by age at least!

It is a Bloody Shame what we have become! More hurtful of us who have been fighting all of our lives to promote and fight for The Youth Employment, Omanisation, Training and Development per se!

The chickens have come home to roost – or what goes around; comes around! A Deserving End!

Allah God Help us all Ameen Amen. Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

May 28, 2015

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