Between Us Only!
Higher Education Versus Personal Behaviours!
It Is Those That Are More Highly Educated That Unexpectedly Behave The Worst In Many Cases!
Honestly, some of my strongest adversaries were ‘those supposed to be highly educated and expected to behave also as appropriately’ – and perhaps it is the jealousy and envy thing that I dare want to join ‘their club’ – but I do not have the PhDs to go along like them! It makes all sorts to make this world – and if you want to maintain your sanity and faculties then you must just go along and take the bitter pill – and in many cases not sugared even!
What do you say to a Doctor who has a heart made of rough stone? A Doctor that is so mean and cruel to levels unimaginable! Yet still dares to smile and show you a friendly face – whilst at the same time telling you bluntly so cutting and so painful things unimaginable to a patient or someone related to that patient? Like Your parent has to do this operation – but he will not survive the operation!
If you insist for a percentage of success he says – I will give you zero percentage! If you ask for your options – he will tell you – Take your parent home – but he will die soon in a painful and tormenting way! Maybe this Doctor has seen so many deaths and injuries – and he feels having this stone heart is a good way of protecting himself – and how he deals with others – patients included!
Conversely, to my dying day I will always remember my First Class Lady Boss in Tanzania. She was of mixed blood – her mother was German and her father local. She was so educated professionally and with also 2 PhDs – but she behaved simply, quietly and approachably that you may be misled to believe that she was just a Secondary School leaver level. I mean in her behaviours and approaches – she never ventured out to show herself off – but was just simple and presentable in all aspects. Actually she felt embarrassed if you started questioning her about her education and attainments!
Then come to our own! Even the ladies too – can you imagine? Especially if she holds a position of power and authority – that seems to go more into her head! I had a boss (local) in one neighbouring country – she was divorced by two husbands – and her third marriage was on the rocks. She was a very pretty thing to look at – but not to be taken home – and be touched! Just like you see a scorpion in a glass box!
She treated all of us staff like scum and dirt – and her communications to us were mere shouts and screams! She could insult you anytime in front of your visitors, peers, customers, clients and even subordinates – the later which she liked to do more! She never kept her promises to you at all – and you never dared to remind her! She destroyed the career and lives of many by her cruelty and meanness – and some even mental and phsychological cases to this day! People like these when they meet a nasty end – there is simply no remorse or feelings from those she had insulted and pained before!
Both the ladies were my bosses – but guess which one I am ready to return to anytime! I have so many more other examples of so-called ‘higher educated so disappointing and sad cases’ to give – with live examples and stories – but my column is limited by words. You can get all more information from my books – especially the two Arab Management books here and at www.majidbooks.com
Yet our Great Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) was not that educated himself – and the Angel Gabriel had to ‘direct him to read!’ – And yet he was one of the greatest people and leaders in this world – and will remain so till the end of the world. He led by personal examples to be followed and to be emulated!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2012! Take Care!
Majid Al Suleimany