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A Personal Note – Celebrating Christmas & Happy New Year 2014!

My Book Had Said It! A Cry For Help! So did My Columns!

Since my family had returned and I came to Oman in 1972 – I have never seen people being so ‘unfriendly and lesser tolerant’ not only for those celebrating – but even those that had joined in – and sending messages and greetings – even if they are not celebrating! The most few emails that I ever got in my life was for this year – and shows sadly where some elements in society is turning to nowadays! There maybe many reasons – but I believe my book published in September 2009 – before the Arab Springs – said it!

Trafford USA Publishers – QuoteAddressing the increased extremism, fundamentalism, and lack of tolerance and forbearance in the Arab workforce, Author Majid Al Suleimany presents A Cry for Help!: Arabian Management Services – Context and Perspectives. 

In three parts, A Cry for Help! concentrates on the management styles and aspects of companies located in the Arabian Gulf Cooperation Council that encompasses Oman, United Arab Emirates, Qatar, Kuwait, Bahrain and Saudi Arabia. It discusses the:

• Growing radicalization of local staff • Misbehaving expatriates • Unhappy, dissatisfied staff • Poor treatment of staff, especially by European Western staff • Increasing extremism and fundamentalism in offices • Sensitive, related issues

In A Cry for Help!, Suleimany, a management expert, focuses on what is particular about the type of Arab management, its context and perspectives, and what is peculiar, special, or particular to that work in the context and comparison to management styles of other nations. Using personal experiences, examples, and illustrations, Suleimany exposes the new reality and truth and moves away from the trend and approach of hiding issues and problems – Unquote!

Unfortunately, this lone voice that stood out to speak more for ‘live and let live’ – more patience, tolerance, co-existence and harmony – between societies and peoples was subjugated and killed by The New Peoples under control of my columns in the newspaper! At least it was a voice that preached the right messages – and especially directed at our Youth!

I am not the enemy or the adversary as some may perhaps think – but those that targeted and aimed this voice from speaking The Truth – are only doing a big disservice to not only themselves – but everybody else in the society!

Do I need to say anything anymore? Sad and tragic really!

Today another Arab country (Iraq) is using its own Air Force to target its own peoples! So what is next – I ask??

Best Wishes and Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

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The USA Gold Seal Literary Excellence Award – For My Psychology Book! Reply

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For Wednesday – October 16th 2013.

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The USA Literary Excellency Award!

It is from the womb of art that criticism was bornCharles Baudelaire

Any authentic work must start an argument between the artist and his audience – Rebecca West.

The US Review of Books connects worldwide Authors and Publishers with Professional Reviewers. It is an independent free running body – and the books and Reviewers are chosen at random order.

Pleased to inform you my Readers and Fans that my Arab Psychology Book has won the prestigious  US Gold Seal of Literary Excellency Award!

My books USA Trafford Publishers had sent me this note – which is very good news on my Arab Management book – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking! – Context and Perspectives. My book had won The Gold Seal of Literary Excellency Award – and was shortlisted for the prestigious Eric Hoffer Award.

The mere fact it had reached this stage – and competed against books from well known world Authors and Writers – and some of them being great Researchers, Professors and great Literary Artists is an achievement in itself – as it was my first Arab Management book! More information at www.myownmajid.com – I am pleased to share with you on our success!

MUSCAT, Oman – In his new book “Psychology of Arab Management Thinking: Arabian Management Series” (published by Trafford Publishing), author and analyst Majid Al Suleimany explores the management styles that he believes helped lead to the events of Arab Spring.

“This is a no-punch-held-back book,” Al Suleimany says. “It critically reviews and assesses with deep soul searching analysis the management styles and approaches of the Arab world, especially in Gulf Cooperation Countries (GCC) vis-à-vis the international companies operating in the international arena.”

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An excerpt from “Psychology of Arab Management Thinking”:

“As Arabs work is worshipped in our Religion – so what went wrong here? Especially in Management circles? Why are we behind the rest of the world, despite all our riches, potentials and resources?

This is a no punch held back, no barrels held, no stiff, no frills play – but to be as blunt, frank, open, honest and sincere as far as possible – so the book can be a learning experience and process for this generation – and future to come – especially after the recent Arab Spring uprisings!”

Al Suleimany knows his book fills a critical need. “Little is known of Arab management styles,” he says, “especially as written from the inside by an Arab himself as an experienced professional local HR and management expert, advisor and counselor.”

“Psychology of Arab Management Thinking” – By Majid Al Suleimany

The Book Review – The book was reviewed by one John E. RoperUSA – Quote www.theusreview.com/reviews/Psychology-Suleimany.html

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“It is only by building on existing strengths, and moving forwards on established capabilities that economic maturity can be achieved and rising living standards maintained.”

Writers approach their craft with a variety of motivations. Some search for fame, others for fortune, and still others because spinning words together is one of the few things they are really good at. Some, though, write because what they have to say is burning inside them, and the only release is to share with others what has so inflamed their emotions. Such is the case with the author, whose passion for his people and his culture has driven him to speak out against the problems within Arab management practices so that, as he says, he can one day tell his grandchildren that by writing books he did something about them.

The author approaches his topic as an insider. Having worked extensively in the global business environment and in human resources in particular, both with Arab and international leadership, he has seen firsthand the shortsightedness, prejudice, paranoia, and autocratic tendencies of many Arab managers as well as the unfortunate fact that motivation and morale are frequently higher among Arab employees when someone other than one of their own countrymen is in charge. These observations have gnawed at him, and he questions not only why the situation within the corporate world is like this but also what can be done about it.

As an Omani, the Author offers great insight into his own country’s management issues, but he is quick to point out that many of the observations he makes can be applied to businesses throughout the Arab world. While the subject matter of this book will mainly appeal to readers approaching it from an Arab perspective, students of international business can also learn a lot from the author’s research – Unquote

What The Book Had Said!

As aforementioned, the book is about Arab Management issues and aspects – with personal experiences, exposures and examples of the Author stretching over 35 years experiences in Management and Human Resources – and as a Consultant, Advisor and Expert for over the past 10 years in a number of companies.

Continued – Author’s Note – For a long time now, I have been putting off the idea of writing this book – though it had been on my mind for a long time now. The mere idea of writing this book scared me to bits and pieces – for many valid and pertinent reasons.

I hope you will enjoy the book. I have tried to be as frank, open, forthright, honest, sincere and genuine as I can – as Readers who know me can give credence and credibility to me and will vouch and authenticate my works.

I have not spared myself, so there is just for it to be honest, sincere, genuine and hard hitting – sparing no one. Just No One!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Writing Is Not A Dirty Word! Reply

 

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Writing Is Not A Dirty Word!

By Majid Al Suleimany

January 18, 2013

Some years ago, I was working in this Chinese Company and I gave my first book Between Us Only! as a complimentary gift to this European Finance Manager who joined after me! He came from Tanzania branch of the same company. In the book there was an article titled Are You Afraid? It was about magic and witchcraft in East Africa.

One day earlier we had got talking about Tanzania and the subject had cropped up – and in good faith I had thought of giving him the book! A few days later I asked him if he had read the article – but he said that he had not! This person had taken a lot of pride of how he got rid of a Tanzanian local who was the Finance Director before him – and wanted to have an added plus of including an Omani in his list tick off too! Which he successfully did – by telling everyone in Management that Majid had written a book that was critical and radical of The West! That was his outlook and prerogative – and he was free to think like what he wanted to!

The same outlook was outlandishly made by some crude Western Expatriates in my previous USA run company. And that comes to the main point to be made here – The Westerners believe in freedom and democracy only if you are in their camp – and are in support of their views and in outlooks! Thus creating my two books in Arab Management – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking and A Cry For Help! – please see my books website www.myown-ebooks.com and www.majidbooks.com

They do not want you to support Palestinians or The Arab cause. Even if you are Arab – or Muslim! Shut up – Keep Quiet – and Sit In the Corner! Do not write topics like No More Wars please! Or Lift The Gaza Blockage! Or write anything against Israel. Did you notice that the Israeli Jews can criticize their own government – but the American supporters and Jews do not allow you this? This is how my two sequel books Between Us Only! had run into publishing problems in USA! In the end they had agreed to refund my monies paid – because they simply did not want association with my books!

Makes the whole exercise of their preaching others for democracy, freedom of speech, freedom of expression is shallow and hollow – because they do not allow it in their country to outsiders – and though they are outsiders here in Oman – they want the same for the locals to ‘fall down and play dead’ after the command – when you misbehave! That is why they hate The Arab Spring Uprisings – because it works against them! And Israel especially! Because they can no longer control, dominate and subjugate others – by using the puppets under their control and domination. That goes down to an individual level – and Writers, Authors and Columnists like us are special targeted for writing on THE TRUTH ONLY!

But this issue does not only extend to expatriates in our midst – but even locals too! In one interview on so-called VP HR was making great fun, joke and mirth about my writings – and my books and websites! Yet I was there not for a job in his Company – but more as a Consultant in HR! Nothing to do as me as in writing – which is not profession linked – as writing being just my hobby, interests and passion!

A great lady fan of mine – who had died in a nasty road accident had said to me that people are simply jealous and envious of you – because they know you have the knack and the expertise of writing – and they cannot – even if they dearly wished for this. Mr. M – you have not lost – you have won!

The same thing was said to me by two other lady fans – and several gents too – all local!

There was also this Indian HR guy – who first of all is not supposed to be in that position as is reserved for Omanis – who behaved just like The Western Finance Manager in a meeting with the local GM of a company I was doing some HR Project with. He thought he was cracking a great joke in the meeting – and so was a German guy who pretended to be a friend – whilst all the time feeding poison to this same GM. In the end my contract was reduced time period wise – but I quit and left within half an hour of getting the new contract – remained unsigned – and resignation instead!

That is how the cookie crumbles. I really urge you to read my two Arab Management books above.

In summary and in conclusion – writing is not a dirty word! If you cannot write – do not try to belittle and marginalise those that can!

By Majid Al Suleimany

January 18th 2013.

All About My New Books – Three! Reply

My New Books Under Publication – Three!

Please visit www.myown-ebooks.com and www.bethesafedriver.com

Three New Books.

1 Behind The Whel! – Road Safety Novel Book. – www.bethesafedriver.com

2 Between Us Only! – The Sequel – Book 3.

3 Between Us Only! – Short Takes! – The Sequel – Two!

Previous Books – www.myown-ebooks.com

1 Between Us Only!

2 The Sequel – Between Us Only!

3 Short Takes – Between Us Only!

4 Psychology of Arab Management Thinking! – Book One – Arab Management.

5 A Cry For Help! – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Series!

(Book Two in Arab Management)

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Best Wishes and Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

Muscat – Sultanate of Oman.

September 30th, 2012

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The Books:-

1 – Between Us Only!

2 – The Sequel – Between Us Only!

3 – Short Takes – Between Us Only!

4 – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking!

5 – A Cry For Help!

6 – Behind The Wheel!

7 – Between Us Only! – Three – The Sequel!

8 – Between Us Only! – Short Takes 2 – The Sequel!

6 to 8 are new under Final Publication.

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Majid Al Suleimany’s exciting new book is “A Cry for Help!”

“A Cry for Help!” examines the management styles of Arabian Gulf Corporation Council countries

MUSCAT, Oman – Author Majid Al Suleimany exposes the increasing extremism, fundamentalism and radicalization in management styles and employees’ receptions and reaction in his new book “A Cry for Help!”(published by Trafford Publishing

With over 35 years of human resource experience in Oman and with the Gulf Cooperation Council countries, Al Suleimany digs deep into the Arab office environment. Suleimany spins “a frank, honest and open book exposing the increasing lack of ethics, principles, professionalism and tolerance in the office environment.”  

“A Cry for Help!” focuses on the particular type of management that is being used in the Arab workplace while explaining the context and perspectives in the work environment. He goes on to explain what is peculiar, special, or particular to that work in the context of, and in comparison to, management styles of other nations. 

About the Author 

Majid Al Suleimany resides in Oman with his wife and four children. He has published four other books: “Psychology of Arab management!,” “The Sequel – Between Us Only!,” “Short Takes – Between Us Only!” and “Between Us Only! Book One.” He has two others in production: “Between Us Only! The Sequel Three” and “Behind the Wheel!” Al Suleimany is also a columnist for The Oman Daily Observer. He has worked in management, human resources and as a consultant for over 35 years in Oman. 

Trafford Publishing, an Author Solutions, Inc. author services imprint, was the first publisher in the world to offer an “on-demand publishing service,” and has led the independent publishing revolution since its establishment in 1995. Trafford was also one of the earliest publishers to utilize the Internet for selling books. More than 10,000 authors from over 120 countries have utilized Trafford’s experience for self publishing their books. For more information about Trafford Publishing, or to publish your book today, call 1-888-232-4444 or visit trafford.com.

Book Review – An Intelligent Man’s Guide To Arab Management.! (Two Books) Reply

Book Review – An Intelligent Man’s Guide To Arab Management.

Oman Vistas Magazine – Essential Reading on Business & Economic Development – February 2010.

Psychology of Arab Management Thinking deals with everything you need to know about the Arab Management process and nuances of the workplace in Oman. The Author quotes mainly from personal experiences and draws on his observations of human behavior at the workplace.

The book provides a perspective from the Author’s personal experiences in dealing with expatriates and locals. It is an outmost candid representation and objective evaluation of behavioral and management issues, organization values and work ethics at the workplace in Oman.

In his book, he puts forth hard hitting facts in a sincere attempt to speak the truth about the realities in Arab Management. The attempt is not to be construed as an attempt to jeopardize people, instead it is written with an objective to make people aware, help them learn and make amends to the current management system.

This process of realization and change are being laid out in order to help the management in their development and success and raise the bar in terms of achievement and learning and increase value added employee contributions at the workplace.

In the preface of the book, he reveals “Arab Managers have a low opinion and rating of his own people and values and esteems outsiders to his own”. This book is definitely not a surreptitious (secret) account of workplace facts, but introspective (thoughtful) writing well meant to assess and evaluate facts with objectivity at its best.

In Chapter 14 “Is there any hope for the Arab Manager? Or what should the Arab Manager do?” he puts forth the fundamental and most critical question of whether such a management is able to evoke a sense of morale, motivation and ownership of tasks from employees at the workplace.

This book is a reference point for a better understanding between people and organizations, especially in the unprecedented business scenario where employees need to stay together as a team. He speaks about incumbent issues of working with certain managers where he was asked to over deliver as he was presumably paid more than the directors back in their country. He speaks about pertinent issues of preferential treatment, lack of transparency and dilution of organizational values of integrity and team work at the workplace in order to further the personal interests of the management.

Citing case studies and quotes especially from organization inputs, he provides plausible instances for clash of old autocratic and new management concepts, importance of interpersonal and communication skills, training and implementing new practices. He puts forth principles that will have a greater role to play in challenging the current practices in Arab Management for the better.

This book is a revelation of the realities of the Arab workplace and is recommended to be read as the Writer is drawing from his own personal experiences and exposures and narrated with live demonstrations, examples and illustrations with the aim of improvement in the Arab Management practices

Majid Al Suleimany is a prolific writer who is an Arab (GCC – Omani) Management and Human Resources Consultant, Expert and Professional who has authored various (management) books. Known for his sharp wit and honest portrayal of the culture of the Arab workplace, the Author has no qualms in calling ‘a spade a spade’.

He has worked for over 25 years as a Human Resources Professional and Expert mainly in Oil Companies. He has also worked for over 8 years as a Management and Human Resources Consultant, Expert and Advisor. He has also been widely exposed to young Omani graduates’ intake programmes, their mentoring, coaching and counseling and for National Staff in general. He holds an MBA in International Management (UK). The Author has four other books to his credit – the second Management New Book A Cry For Help! Between Us Only; The Sequel – Between Us Only! And Short Takes – Between Us Only!

The book is now available in Family Bookshops in Oman, Borders and WHSMith – Magrudy’s and Jashanamal in UAE.

It can be ordered online at www.trafford.com/08-0889 or email orders@trafford.com

(For more books reviews, details and particulars, please visit www.majidbooks.com or www.mymajidbooks.wordpress.com or  www.alsuleimany.com

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Between Us Only!

THE FINAL ARTICLE!

It Is Time To Say Goodbyes!

  • A wise man once said: ‘The skill in attending a party is knowing when it is time to leave’. We built something extraordinary together… and all things must end, and we wanted to do it right, to do it our way – REM lead vocalist Michael Stipe announces the alternative rock band is splitting after 31 years and 15 albums.
  • A farewell is necessary before we can meet again, and meeting again, after moments or a lifetime is certain for those who are friends. Anon
  • True love doesn’t have a happy ending, because true love never ends. Letting go is one way of saying I love you – Anon
  • Sometimes you have to let go to see if there was anything worth holding on to – Anon
  • Set the bird free – if it flies away from you – it was not yours from the beginning! – East African Swahili saying.
  • Do not wake up sleeping dogs, they will wake up – and bite you! – Another East African Swahili expression.
  • This battle may have been lost – but the war is still on ahead – French General after France invaded by Nazi Hitler German army.
  • Sometimes you think you have won; when you have actually lost – and sometimes you think you have lost; when you have actually won! – Anon
  • The usual old games and tricks do not work anymore – because people have gone past the Fear Element now!
  • Do not bite the hand that feeds you – otherwise you will lick the boot that kicks you – Anon
  • If you have something growing for you – keep it, nurture it – let it grow and prosper – do not put sand in your rice cake (food) – (Swahili East African) or spit on your food (Indian). If you do – in the end you yourself cannot eat it anymore!
  • Do not kill the messenger of bad news! – Anon
  • Sincerity and being caring, feeling and genuine are never wasted in the front of God – Arabic

I am one of those fans who had really got hurt and disappointed when The ABBA Swedish music group had decided to close down. The same for the Comedy series Seinfeld and Friends. Also The Oprah shows.

The reason they gave was the same one – when you are still ‘up there’ then it is time to quit!

I watched the film of Titanic as it was being rushed to its utter destruction – as it was being moved towards the icebergs – and despite the protestations of the young captains on board!

I am a sick diabetic person 63 years old – with eyesight and glaucoma problems. I am now continuously feeling a lot of pressures – and getting my face always bloodied – and my head swollen – as I bang it against brick walls! Nobody is hearing me – and I always end as the victim – because people do not want to hear the truth – and find evil and devious ways and means to ‘get back at me’!

I simply cannot now continue to handle the pressures I used to be able to do in the past – especially being out all alone there – and abandoned without any support and backing!

Things that have seemed to have been settled are being revived just to put me in a corner – and to silence me!

I have been writing for the last 8 years – and on the same subjects and topics – and I keep writing – again and again! I am writing more as a hobby – something that I like to do! Nothing more or less! The money is peanuts – if and when it comes in!

The Romans had said – Those that the gods are out to destroy make them not see, hear or speak. Or as we Arabs say – There is no one so blind but with eyes but cannot see; no one so deaf but with ears but cannot hear; and no one so dumb but with a mouth but cannot speak!

Or as Napoleon had appropriately had said – Do not interfere with someone set to destroy himself (Let it be syndrome!).

Things I had said in 1980s came to pass – even in my working time and career too! I am tired of saying so many times – again and again – I TOLD YOU SO! The same things that I have said in my articles from 2003 onwards – 8 years ago – came to pass! Just imagine! From my first book Between Us Only! – www.majidbooks.com

My First Arab Management Book – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Magement Series. The book talked all about ‘the things going wrong in Arab Management’. See here how to order – or www.majidbooks.com

I warned and cautioned on the cinder fires burning underneath – instead my books and I were targeted instead! The book A Cry For Help! Went even so far to prophesied and predict the Arab Spring Uprisings – but who cares? See www.majidbooks.com Even the VIPs that I had sent my books did not have even the politeness and courtesy to acknowledge and thank me! As if I was embarrassing them instead to send them my books!

Why and What for are all these things?

My Second Arab Management Book – A Cry For Help! (The Real Cry!) – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Magement Series. The book talked all about ‘the things going more extreme and fundamental especially with The Youth and sort of predicted and propheised The Arab Spring Uprisings!. See here how to order – or www.majidbooks.com

Anyway, I would like to thank all my fans and supporters from my heart with warmth, sincerity and genuine feelings and touch. And I ask your forgiveness for those who chose ‘not to be my friends’ – and those trying to get back at me – to shut me up and close my mouth!

This is Goodbye – and wishing you all the very best in your lives, your families and in your endeavours! I came – and now I am going. Leave me alone NOW in peace – please!

Goodbye and Maa Salaamah!

By:

Majid Al Suleimany

November 19th 2011 – Muscat – Oman.

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June 24th 2011

The Final Episode – Learning To Go Silent Now!

A       Levels of  Faith for Changes

In our Religion we are given three levels of what one can  do in action change and in faith too – of what one must do. There are several  Hadith (Religious Narrations) that too confirm on this – and I could give many  references and quotations – but I am trying to give this universal message appeal  to all people generally –

  • Highest Level One
    Change things if it is in your power to do so! It is left to you and your God  only if you know about this and do nothing to make the move and change.
  • Level Two– Cause change to happen by  speaking it out about this or drawing attention to it. Similarly here – It is  left to you and your God only if you know about this and do nothing to make the  move and change.
  • Lowest Level  Three – You say it in your heart only that you are against this but are too afraid to speak about it as it may cause harm, danger and damage to you if you go to Level Two. This is considered as the weakest of all  the faith one has – but is designed and designated to protect yourself more (or  also those near you).
  • Level Three can also be there is no added profit nor advantage to speak about it because you have tried several times before to go to Level Two with no  results nor advantage – but only you are exposing yourself to harm and damage  if you continue – or you look more ridiculous, stupid annoying and losing  standing, personality and character if you continue in this practice.

Now those of you who know me well will appreciate and  understand that something has happened to want me to write about this – and you  are absolutely right too!

If you have few  minutes to spare please Read All – otherwise go straight to F. Page 7 – Family,  Friends and Relatives are urged to READ ALL

I also note this – people have very strong comments, rigid  views, outlooks, perceptions and opinions on many things – but the worst part  is that they think they are always right, ethical and correct – and want to  impose them on others.

The more unfortunate  part is also once they have judged someone or given him a certain colour and  shade – they stick to it and do not want to change their views and opinions
because they are ‘riding the high horse’ and speaking down to you! They do not  want to give you the benefit of doubt that they may be are mistaken and there  is a possibility of change in a person too – as we all human change too from  time to time – but not you!

I now understand  why some people outside our societies (or even within) hate and despise us so  much. I now also understand fully what it means to say ‘opening a can of worms’
really means.

There is also no  respect and esteem for those older and senior to us – especially in such
affairs. I want to bring the subject out in the open – so we can discuss it  rationally, unemotionally, pragmatically and with hopeful signs of  reconciliations, remedy, peace, harmony, understandings, live-and-let-live  outlooks and scenarios.

Time and time  again, History has proved this point. The days when you could scare people away  by words and acts of threats, aggression, bullying etc are now over. Even if  you go to the basics at home. What my grandfather could do to my father – to  what my father could do to me – and what I can do to my son (and hopefully his  son too) – have been reduced from time to time. My late father could scold me  in front of my wife – his father could beat him my father in front of his wife  – but I will think twice before I even contemplate to scold my son – especially  in front of his wife.

Times have  changed. But opinions and views have not – and people have still not learnt  even if the truth is facing them right into their faces!

 B       The Triple Filter Test.  

Have you heard  of The Triple Filter Test? 

During the  Golden Abbasid period, one of the Scholars in Baghdad, the capital of the  Muslim Caliphate at that time, was reputed to hold the highest of knowledge and  education in esteem. One day an acquaintance met the Great Scholar and said –  Do you know what I just heard about your friend? The Scholar replies – Hold  on a minute, before telling me anything I would like you to pass a little Test.  It is called The Triple Filter Test. The Man asks – Triple Filter Test?

The Scholar  continues – That is right. Before you talk to me about my friend it might be  a good idea to take a moment and filter what you are going to say. That is why  I call it the Triple Filter Test. The first filter is TRUTH.  Have you made absolutely sure that what you  are about to tell me is true? The Man replies – No, on the contrary! The  Scholar – All right, so you do not really know if it is true or not. Now let  us try the second Filter Test of GOODNESS.  Is what you are about to tell me about my  friend something good? The Man – No, on the contrary! The Scholar goes  on – So, you want to tell me something bad about him, but you are not  certain it is true.

You may still  pass the test though, because there is one Filter Test left. That Filter is of
USEFULLNESS. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to  me?
The
Man replies – No, not really. The Scholar – Well, if what you want to  tell me is neither true or good nor even useful, why tell me all about it at  all? (Good Question I guess!)

In our Holy  Quraan it says – Surah  49, Al-Hujarat, Ayah 12 – Quote – O ye who believe! Avoid much  suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one  another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would  hate it (so hate backbiting) And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who  Accepts repentance, Most Merciful – Unquote.

Like the East Africans like to say – Uutu  ni bora kuliko Vitu – Humanity is better than (material) things! We all make  mistakes and errors in judgment in life – but forgiveness is divine – as is  going for the high road too!

C       The Great Alexander Story

The Great King Alexander’s Three Death Wishes.

The Great King Alexander – after conquering many kingdoms – was returning home. On the way, he  fell ill and he was bedridden for months. With death drawing close, Alexander
realized how his conquests – his great army – his sharp sword and all his  wealth were of no use to him now.

He called all his generals and said – I will depart  from the world soon. But I have three wishes. Please fulfill my wishes without  fail. With tears flowing down their cheeks, the generals agreed to abide  by their King’s last wishes

My First Desire is that – said Alexander – my Physicians alone must carry my coffin. Secondly  – when my coffin is being carried to the grave – the path leading to the  graveyard should be strewn with gold, silver and precious stones which I have  collected in my treasury. My Third and Last wish is that both my hands  should be kept dangling out of my coffin.

The people that had gathered there wondered at the  King’s strange wishes. But no one dared to question;

Alexander’s favorite general kissed his hand and  pressed them to his heart. O King – we assure you that your wishes will all be  fulfilled. But tell us why do you make such strange wishes?

At this Alexander took a deep breath and said – I  would like the World to know of Three Lessons I have just learnt. I want my  Physicians to carry my coffin because people should realize that no Doctor can  really cure anybody. They are powerless and cannot save a person from the clutches  of Death. So let not people take life for granted.

The Second Wish of strewing gold, silver and other  riches on the way to the graveyard is to tell people that that not even a  fraction of gold can be taken by me. Let people realize that it is a sheer  waste of time to chase wealth.

And about my Third Wish of having my hands dangling  out of the coffin – I want people to know that I came empty handed into this  world – and empty handed I go out of this world.

Alexander’s last words – Bury my body – do not build  any monument for me – keep my hands outside so that the world knows the person  who conquered the world had nothing in his hands when dying…… A REAL GREAT  ADVICE!

D       From My Article – What the Old Man Had Said!

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During  these difficult times, I thought it is essential, imperative and fundamentally
important to share this one with you today on My Late Father (PBUH).  Hopefully all of us and The Younger  Generation can learn from it all – Inshallah! Though admittedly I feel still so
empty, vacuum, desolate and despondent that all I had tried to caution, counsel  and warn in my books went to waste – and it seemed nobody had read my books at  all. Especially the book – A Cry For Help!

I had talked about the increasing expectations  – and the lack of tolerances and patience – especially amongst the youngsters –  and how some few misbehaving expatriates would cause a great deal of trouble  and havoc here

My  Late Father was not that educated – nor did he speak any good English – but my  late Father was the most educated, intelligent, smart, wise and pragmatic  person that I ever saw in my life!

Whilst  there are many problems usual Father to Son Relationships – My Father and I  were the Best Friends to say the least. We could communicate and touch base at  the highest levels. I try to do the very same with my children too.

This is an  extract about My Late Father (Peace Be Upon Him) and from My Book A Cry For
Help! – A.15 – The Oman FM Radio Interview – in June 2007. The Announcer is  Mrs. Judith Razaq (JR) and me (MS)

JR       – Majid – Who has the greatest  influence in your life than anybody else?

MS      – I think it is my Father more than  anybody else because my Father was straight forward.

He made a lot of  friends and he also made a lot of enemies too. Because if somebody had upset  him- he never went about a long way to tell him so. My Father sometimes when we
invite guests to our house – he is dead now- so Father – Father please Father –  Please put the brakes on! He would say – the food is for you – eat it – I am  not going to tell you more than once! You are the guests – the food is for you  – please eat it. I tell Father – you do not have to tell them these things! You  know he is straight forward. And he has been telling us – that you should not  be scared nor to be afraid!

Always tell the  truth even if it may cost you – you must do the right correct same thing. But  please do not go for lies and deceptions.

My late Father  was particularly against taking loans (interests!) and living beyond our means
– or trying to brag and show off in life. He also told us – Do not be deceived  you have a rich powerful family member, relative or friend – because nobody is  going to help you – except yourself and your Lord only! To Him you go for help  and salvation – and nobody else – if you want to be happy and live comfortably  in this world! Live within your means – and do not overspent – or be stingy in  life either! Also earn your living honestly and sincerely!

And yes – Do not  be jealous and envious of others – because God does not like this in men. He is  The Giver and The Provider – and He decides whom to give (more or less) or not
at all. When you become jealous and envious – it means in other words that you  are challenging The Lord himself!

Do not ask for  kindness, mercies and favours from anyone in this life – except the Lord only!
But if somebody came to you for help and assistance – help him – because The  Lord favours those who are kind and compassionate to their fellow human beings  – and The Lord is particularly angry on those who can help but do not – it is  the same Lord who gave you that is denying him – and the Lord is just testing  you now!

Do not be  obstinate and difficult in life – and listen to the advices of your parents and  elders. Respect others and their belongings – just as you are doing yours and  would not want others to harm yours either. A good Muslim is the one who wants  the same good things for himself that he wants for others to have too! Work  hard and diligently for yourself and for your family – and never put all your  faith and trust in people – because they can let you down badly and unexpectedly!

On Family he  said – PBUH – Family  is like your running nose having a very bad smell – but it is still your nose. You  cannot cut and remove it – because if you do – you end as The Bigger Loser than  anybody else!

My Father ended  being just a Grocery Shopkeeper in his life – though he rode the same donkey to  school with people who were his peers in becoming great public figures and very
rich and powerful elites – from his home village in Hail Al Ghaaf – Quriyaat –  and after his parents had moved from Manah in Nizwa.

If we only had  listened – To what the Old Man had said!! A great man lived – and went! Peace  Be Upon Him! May Allah God Protect and Preserve us all – Amin…

E       From My Article – Goodbye: Our Mama!

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Our Late Mother  (Mama Bi.) Jokha Hamed Zahor Al Suleimaniya (Peace Be Upon Her) – Left us for  her heavenly abode on Monday 4 a.m. October 26th 2009 – From Allah  (God) we come – and To Allah (God) we all return … Amin… A great greatness that  had come to us with our Mother to us in this world – and now had gone forever –  just like the dust and candle into the wind! (Elton John to Lady Diana Song!)….

There is this  saying that if you see a grave and see a person being buried, then you  will come to your senses of our Temporary existence in this world. And all that  we pursue, focus, strive, drive and compete for have ambitions for – and want  to have and attain are all superficial and a charade. Only what you leave  behind is your good deeds, standing, reputation, behaviour and characteristics  only.

There is also  this point that sometimes you think you know everything or from your
subconscious that they exist – until someone tells you or reminds you – and in  many cases end up as being missed chances and opportunities – and if only  becomes the norm and too late a reminder! All the money, power and riches you  have you will leave behind, and you will go with that, they put on you before  they lower you to the ground and bury you!

Our late Mother  above had expired early morning Monday morning 26th of October 2009
after a failed and aborted surgerical operation at Royal Hospital for Dialysis  Implant. She was 78 years old – and her kidneys, lungs and also her heart  (heartbeats) had failed her. She was too weak for surgery, but the Doctors told  us that her lungs had accumulated too much water – and their attempts to drain  her had failed.

They had aborted  and stopped the operation whilst still in process – and instead they had to
resuscitate her and insert oxygen instead. These things are well best left for  the Medical Professionals – after all, they are supposed to be more experts, knowledgeable and experienced. In any case, it is Allah’s Will – and we have to  accept that it was her time due to return to Allah SWT.

But having seen  that back 10 years ago, my late father went the same way – something has to be  done for cases where the patient is aged and weak, and yet the operation  becomes necessary as they say. But if one ponders on the critical paramount and  fundamental point for a minute that the patient certainly cannot take it – then  the Medical Professionals must find alternative ways, means and routes to treat  such cases. I do not think surgery for the sake of surgery or an easy way out  is an easy option remembering the Medical oath, ethics, professionalism,  principles – and Hippocrates Oath I think?

Also if you as  Head of The Medical Team have already reached a decision with one member of the  family (in this case me as the eldest) you should stick to that agreement –  otherwise it causes distrust and divisions in the family – especially when  death etc comes in (as it did!)!

Allah Kareem –  God Is Great – Praise be to Allah –The Cherisher and Sustainer of The Worlds –  Most Gracious – Most Merciful – Master of the Day of Judgment – You do we
worship – And Your aid we seek – Show us the straight (right) way – The way of  those on whom You have bestowed Your Grace – Those whose (portion) is not Wrath  – And who not go astray (Amin).

In this column  and in my books (see www.alsuleimany.com)  I have written about my late Mother – from an article titled The Glass Is Bent  – and several others. She is covered in all my books too – the Between Us Only  series. Also in the introduction part of my book Psychology of Arab Management  Thinking.

My late Mother’s funeral received one of the  biggest gatherings that I have seen  for a very long time. One resident of the place asked one of my friends – who  is the great person who has died today (by the number of peoples attending). My  friend replied – She was not from that very rich and famous powerful lady group – but certainly she was a Great Lady.

She had built  relationships to those high unbelievable levels – especially to neighbours –  proved by how many of them were at the funeral – even from Hamriya days 35  years ago – and even our neighbours from Zanzibar Mafia etc. sent in condolences!  The friend told me – I lost my Mother again after my own Mother had died two  years ago. Now I have No Mother!

One of the old ladies in Hamriya 35 years ago  had said – all I wish is to be buried near you – and she was three days later –  a premonition and wish that came true. She was also very sick – and had also  lost her husband – and a son too!

My late Mother was one of the gentlest and  kindest ladies that had ever existed in this world. She always respected and  esteemed everybody equally whether you were from the rich or poor, the powerful  or not, the famous or not.

She was especially kind and generous to the poor,  the needy, the desperate, the sick, the aged and elderly, the small children,  those that had given up hope and those that had ‘been lost; and wanted to be  ‘found and to be discovered’ and had come to her. She was especially against  disrespect, rudeness abruptness and contempt to those in ages older to one –
and especially also to those in leadership roles.

She stood out against unfairness and lack of  ethics and principles in life, and unalike many of us, found it in her own  subtle ways and means of communicating what was or should have been obvious to  that person – or the person talking to her and asking for her views, ideas and
opinions.

She meant not to hurt anyone’s feelings and  outlook, even if she wanted to scream out the opposite in what she was feeling  or was in her heart. This especially to her sometimes misbehaving and truant  children – as far as I know she never took a stick to beat you (unalike our  late Father Peace Be Upon Him) but she would look at you and stare at you – and
you will get the signals and conform yourself – if not the first time – then  surely the second time around!

From the time she was married to one of the richest  and famous man in that distant island place – to the time we were poor  ourselves and in need – she remained unchanged as the same person. There was  always extra food in our house, and the those worse off than ourselves at the  worst of times were welcomed in to partake whatever was cooked in that house –  especially the locals. That is where I had received more calls and messages  than even from here – they all cried saying – a great lady has come – and  now has gone. We are with you at this particular time – your loss is ours too.  That in a summary sums her all up.

It is all so  very traumatic, hurtful and painful – but we must all now only accept Allah’s
Will – Amin. There is this hurt and pain that you simply cannot define when our  parents leave us, and leave us the children behind. The rest have then to mend  and change their ways, behaviours and attitudes to the one left behind who is  the parent figure – so those the parents that had departed do not turn in their  graves – and for the sake of the family and future generations – even if that  person is not rich and powerful. One owes that to the departed especially – and  one only can hope and pray!

 May Allah Bless our Great Mother for the  Greatest of The Heavens and Remove her  from the punishment of the grave – Amin  – Take Care!

F       Why Go Silent Now?

Remember this in A above? Now those of you who know me  well will appreciate and understand that something has happened to want me to  write about this – and you are absolutely right too!

I got this Email (and SMS) message from  several people including from The Company itself.

Talent2, A Global HR solutions company with an office  in Muscat, has been asked by Oman Oil Company to assist in a flag ship HR  project in Sohar.

EXECUTIVE SUMMARY:

• We need HR professionals for 9 days in Sohar

• To play a critical role in a companywide HR  assessment project

• Attractive contract rates will be offered

Interested or can you refer HR professionals?

CONTACT: dermot.omahony@talent2.com +968 9985 8525

We are asking for your help in finding HR  professionals to help in this client based HR project.

We need HR professionals for a short period –  Saturday 18th and Sunday 26th of June. The project would  require HR professionals to assist the panel  interviews to assess internal applicants for key positions throughout the newly  formed company.

We require HR professionals with:

More than three years professional HR experience in interviewing/recruitment/assessing
people.

Residents of Oman

These HR professionals would play a critical role in  interviewing and assessing internal applicants and helping add value to these  candidates internal career mobility within the Oman Oil Company subsidiaries in  Sohar.

Oman Oil Company has three subsidiary companies  in the Port of Sohar which being amalgamated:.

The companies are;

• AROMATICS OMAN

• OMAN POLYPROPYLENE

• OMAN REFINERIES AND PETROCHEMICALS COMPANY

The new name for this company has been named:

• OMAN OIL REFINERIES AND PETROLEUM INDUSTRIES  COMPANY

After trying to contact him several times and  failing I decided to mail him – including one Omani Lady Maha Sultan. After  several days and the project had already started, I received this Email –

On 23 June 2011 09:59, Dermot OMahony <Dermot.OMahony@talentpartnersintl.com>
wrote:

Hello Majid

Apologies for my delayed response.

Presently the HR consulting project which we were  asked to find HR professionals for, has been downscaled (After I had applied?).

The management team at our client site have stated  that they are managing with the existing six HR consultants which they have  resourced.

Originally requiring 21 personnel they have adjusted  their timescales to execute the project with these six senior HR consultants.

I really appreciate the time you take into follow-up  with me.

Perhaps in the future we will be able to work with  each other again.

Regards

Dermot

So I replied to him –

Frankly it is not a  question of sour grapes as it may sound but I invite you and Maha to buy my two  Arab Management books A Cry For Help! (predicted all came into Oman etc) and
Psychology of Arab Management – www.majidbooks.com  – and unless they remove some of the current CEOs and few top Brass all your  exercise will be wasted too – but why worry they will pay you anyway to show  ‘we did something’ – 🙂

On 23 June 2011 11:01, Majid Al  Suleimany <majidalsuleimany@gmail.com>  wrote:

Dear Dermot;

Thanks for letting me know! It is okay – I  wished I could have helped because I know the problems they have there and  there are few Omanis with guts and courage to face them what they need to hear  but do not want to hear!

In confidence when I left Sohar Refinery I  knew it would end in failure and to be merged up – and if you read my weekly  columns in The Oman Daily Observer Strangulation From The Inside you will note  what I am saying here.

Please remove my name from your list because I  have something already with me which will take at least 15 months to complete  at my own pace and speed.

Best Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

I have, therefore decided to go now  completely quiet and let things take their natural cause – because my head is  bleeding banging it against brick walls and people that do not want to hear  anything from me as a person! I have already said so many times before – I told  you so! It is like winning many Derby races – one more will add nothing on to  what is already red lines crossed and saturation points!

With sincere and genuine apologies – Allah  Maakuum – God Be With You All – Amin.

Majid Al Suleimany.

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